Reader Story: Adds Alpha For The Win

Reader:  Finished the book about and thought I would share my experiences.

My wife and I have two small kids, and things were headed in the wrong direction. Where we used to have sex 2-3 per week, we were now only about 3-4 per month. Sex was still good, but pretty vanilla missionary.

There were some warning signs I recognized after reading the book. I got the “I’m too tired” line one night, after she had stayed up later than she usually does watching some TV show. When I read that section of your book, I started to really worry. I knew action was needed asap, so I got to work.

My body was not an issue. I went on health kick a few years ago, and I’m now about a few body fat percentage points above six pack abs. This always bothered me. I look muscular and lean, but this seemed to have no effect on her. Reluctant compliments and but no additional sex.

By now you probably know that I needed a big dose of alpha. I hadn’t realized how I often I had been deferring to her. Like most guys, I thought this was what I was supposed to be doing. Helping with child care, etc. Your book showed me I was boring her. It was as clear as day.

Some things that really worked:

- The ten second kiss. There was some resistance at first, because it is a sex cue for us. Your blog post about doing it outside of the bedroom is right on. I had the most luck as she left for work.

-The plan. I didn’t think this would work, but texting her what I planned to do to her was miraculous. It was always declarative, not questioning or begging. At first, she would try a half hearted shit test in response, so I just reframed and held my line. Every time I did this, I would get the look from her as soon as I got home from work and she would be ready to go. Serious tingles to the point where she told me the texts started getting her wet.

-rough sex. With no regard for her orgasm, I just went after her like a wild animal. If she didn’t orgasm, I didn’t apologize like I would have in the past. Beta.

-assuming the captain’s role. Less asking more telling.

-flirting with other women in front of her. I did it, got called on it, didn’t deny it, and she proceeded to ride me like a cowgirl. Amazing.

Last month, we had sex 25 times. That’s more than the past 6 months combined. This includes multiple doggy style sessions (I thought that ship had sailed), lingerie, lights on, and different locations.

Somewhere in the middle, a switch flipped with her too. She wants it every night. Now she compliments my body all the time. I didn’t tell what I was doing and I never will. Adds to the mystery.Thing is, I don’t even think I’ve scratched the surface.

My next goal is the blowjob during the period. Any help with that would be appreciated.

I cannot thank you enough.

Athol:  Glad it’s all working out so well!

Try with a very naughty boy smile…