Men are taller than women.
If I just post that and walk away, someone is going to jump into the comments and point out that I am small minded and offensive. Clearly there some very tall women and simply stating that “men are taller than women” is simply sexist. My poor reader simply couldn’t imagine living with such a bigot as myself who believes that men are taller than women. After all she is quite tall herself and she knows a man that is of average height that she is taller than.
Then should I happen to mention that I am quite tall and Jennifer quite short… well then some readers wonder if Jennifer is okay trapped in a marriage with my offensive tallness. Frankly it seems like I may be making her short on purpose. I might be despicable.
So anyway… the truth is just as we all know. There are some taller men and some shorter men, plus some taller women and some shorter women. There are two bell curves of height – one for men and one for women and the male bell curve is clearly higher than the female one.
So another statement…
Women are attracted to taller men. Especially men taller than themselves.
This is again quite true. It’s a fairly rare couple where the wife is taller than the husband, the overwhelming majority of couples have a taller husband than wife. Far more so than random chance would suggest.
And on to a more pointed statement…
Men are more naturally dominant than women in personal relationships.
If I just post that and walk away, someone is going to jump into the comments and point out that I am small minded and offensive. Clearly there some very dominant women and simply stating that “men are more naturally dominant than women” is simply sexist. My poor reader simply couldn’t imagine living with such a bigot as myself who believes that men are more dominant than women. After all she is quite dominant herself and she knows a man that is submissive that she is more dominant than.
Then should I happen to mention that I am quite dominant and Jennifer quite submissive… well then some readers wonder if Jennifer is okay trapped in a marriage with my offensive dominance. Frankly it seems like I may be making her submissive on purpose. I might be despicable.
So anyway… the truth is just as we all know. There are some dominant men and some submissive men, plus some dominant women and some submissive women. There are two bell curves of dominance and submission - one for men and one for women, but the male bell curve is clearly more dominant and the female more submissive.
So another statement…
Women are attracted to dominant men. Especially men more dominant than themselves.
I’m not saying that it’s right, it’s certainly not politically correct to say that either. If you are reading into the word “dominant” a mandate for violence or cruelty to someone submissive you are very purposely misunderstanding my overall approach on this blog. I’m just saying that for most men tending towards a dominant social interaction with a woman is a natural state of affairs
To be sure many women have suffered violence or cruelty and now respond highly negatively to men who act with a normal male zest towards a woman. There are good reasons for concern about those that advance a male dominant approach to relationships, including myself. Misunderstanding male social dominance as “thugs up bitches down” leads to bad endgames for all concerned.
But for the last several decades the overall impression given of men is that we are some kind of badly designed female. It’s like men are Humans 1.0 and women are Humans 2.0. All that testosterone surging through our veins is, well…. wrong. If men and women are ever to be truly equal, then men must be shorter.
Personally I grow tired of being asked to stoop for marital equality to appease women I’m not married to. The most radical thought I express on this blog is this…
It’s ok to be a man.
Leadership. Protection. Fidelity. Trust. Integrity. Perseverance. Strength. Power. Construction. Humor. Justice. Exploration. Determination. Sacrifice. Shepherding. Husbandry. Invention. Courage. Bravery. Valiance. Fathering. Kindness.
If you’re married and you are conflicted about your own value as a male, you will inadvertently display weakness and a lack of confidence. The exact opposite of what the majority of women want from you.
It’s ok to be a man. Really.
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