One difficult aspect of Game in a long term relationship is finding the right balance. Too much alpha will just push your woman away – especially if you’ve been a little (or more than a little) beta for a long time and you’re trying to make up for it. You have to find the right balance and keep it there, and that can be more than a little tricky.
TV and movies offer up a nice opportunity, and I’ve been making quite good use of it. If we’re watching a show together and a female character does something unacceptable, I calmly and clearly outline “what I’d do” in that situation. The scare quotes are there because typically it’s not actually what I’d do in that kind of situation – it’s generally exaggerated a little bit on purpose and for effect. What effect? Signals. This is a chance to send clear Alpha signals: I am not a wimp. I will not put up with behavior like that. I do not need to put up with childish behavior in order to get laid. I am not a loser like that beta boy on the screen who just bowed down to kiss the feet of a spoiled twat.
The best part, however, is that I accomplish all of this without directing hostile or negative energy toward my wife. You’re definitely not accusing her of anything, so you avoid putting her on the defensive. Indeed, she even gets to play the good guy too, agreeing with me that the girl in question is beyond the pale and shouldn’t behave like that, and that my hypothetical response is entirely appropriate. Instead, she gets to feel like a good girl (of course she would never act that way). Nevertheless, the signals are sent.
Of course, you can still take this technique too far. Advocating an extreme response that’s truly beyond the pale is still probably going to cause your wife/gf to freak out a little bit about the psychopath sitting next to her. But you can be a little more forceful than you might be in other situations.
