There was a comment in the spam queue that wasn’t actually spam, but I accidentally hit “delete all” and it disappeared… so I’ll go ahead and answer it here.
I believe the commenter’s name was Jill. She said something along the lines of “I was thinking about diving into this red pill stuff, but it seems like you fight with your husband all the time, so screw that”
Assuming you’re not just another feminist troll trying to get a dramatic response, I’ll go ahead and answer. What can I say, I think the best of people, probably to my detriment.
Here’s the thing. We’re fairly new at this. And we were fighting waaaaay worse before CaptainM found MMSL. Really, relatively, it’s like night and day, from my perspective anyway. He’s still finding his footing as Captain, I’m still finding my footing as First Officer.
We’ve gone from having sex once a year to three times a week. I’m happier than I’ve been in a long time, though I sometimes have problems expressing it (something I’ve covered in previous posts). Do we fight? Yeah… The red pill isn’t a cure for all relationship strife. But it does explain the reason for some relationship strife, and gives us the tools to deal with it quicker than we otherwise would.
And when things are going well, but busy as things are, I don’t have much to write about. I could write about sex, but believe it or not, I’m actually kind of hesitant to do so (despite things I’ve previously written). I suppose I could delve into those things in more detail if I wanted to, it’d just take me some courage.
I’ve got some happier posts in the draft folder that I haven’t finished. I’ve got a “Great things about CaptainM” posts on deck. We went on our vacation a few weeks ago, and had a great time, and I started a post on that. But referring to the previous paragraph, there was a lot of sex, so there’s not much to expand on other than “We ate lots of good food, saw the Alamo, went to a symphony performance, and had lots of sex.” I get writer’s block pretty easily, especially when there’s not a big block of time for me to write. It happens.
It’s kind of human nature to rant about that which upsets us, and not so much about things that make us happy. It’s why you can’t trust online reviews. Who’s more likely to review a product, someone who likes it, or someone who wasted a bunch of money on it and is ANGRY? So it goes with blogging sometimes.
The articles I read that make me think are generally things that aren’t necessarily happy. (The post you commented on was the “Male Privilege” post, which was a little odd given the subject matter of your comment, but whatever..)
I tend to come at blogging from a more personal perspective, so a lot of my posts are about the story of my life since we started this journey. It’s not always pretty, and the transition hasn’t been all roses.
So, sorry if I put out a negative vibe. I don’t do it on purpose. And I know I don’t need to answer to anyone, this is my blog, I can post what I damn well want to and you’re free to read or not read, but I wanted to address it since I accidentally deleted it. And it gives me something to do for the few minutes my kids are asleep/distracted.
