You’re on a first date with a fine Colombian girl who knows just about the same English as you know Spanish. It’s a toss up as to who speaks each other’s language better. Should you speak in English or Spanish during the date? Think carefully through the reasoning.
Correct answer: Speak in English. When you speak a foreign language you’re not fluent in there will be many moments of frustration where you can’t express yourself properly. This leads to feelings of inadequacy, which you want her to experience instead of you. She will be looking inward to her own failure instead of your possible flaws. You are her teacher guiding her towards the light. You are the authority figure. As long as she understands your jokes, you’re going to get some at the end of the date because she will be wondering if you still even like her after she was barely able to speak to you.
