The root of the modern ideological conflict between the sexes stems from a very basic biological fact: men are, on the average, stronger than women.
An evil man, if he really wants to use his strength against a woman, is capable of beating, robbing, raping, or murdering 99 percent of the women whose paths he crosses on any a given day. I’m a skinny dude, and I’m more than strong enough to seriously harm most of the women I meet.
This situation isn’t helped by the fact that about 40 percent of women in the United States are obese. In a healthy population, I might worry about a female cross-fitter landing a lucky punch. But a larger gal who gets winded climbing a flight of stairs? That woman is mostly incapable of harming an attacker who’s reasonably fit, or of escaping danger of any kind.
An aside about fat people: The best thing they can possibly do for themselves and their families is attain a healthy bodyweight. Even Lizzo is trying to lose weight. Fat women are dangerous.
Example: Imagine you’re an obese woman. It’s 3:00 A.M. You’re in bed, home alone because your husband is on a business trip, or maybe you’re a single mom. Whatever the reason, it’s just you and the kids there tonight. You’re woken up suddenly. The smoke alarm is going off! The house is on fire. You can barely breathe from all the smoke. Your two children are upstairs screaming. You have 120 seconds, tops, and maybe not even that long, to run upstairs, grab both of your clawing, struggling, screaming children, run downstairs, and make it out the front door, all while inhaling burning-hot smoke and barely getting enough oxygen to think straight. If you’re so fat that plodding up the stairs on a normal day in 72 degree air conditioning without choking on smoke takes some effort and leaves you breathing a little harder, I’ve got bad news for you. Your children are going to die in that fire tonight because you can’t effectively care for them. Probably you, too. And fire is a really terrible way to go.
Being unable to run away from a man who wants to harm her is the least of a fat woman’s problems. She’s an unfit parent. Not just not fit. Unfit.
But back to men being stronger: The huge majority of men have no desire to harm women, even though they could. Most men are fairly decent guys who just want to make it from today to tomorrow without anything major going wrong in their lives. And the few men who are not decent guys are usually kept in check by the very high risk of very significant consequences society ruthlessly imposes on those who harm the fairer sex. Crimes against women are actually pretty rare, percentage-wise, when we look at the size of the population. You wouldn’t know it from the media, but that’s a rant for another day.
In fact, as far as The Red Pill is concerned, rape is a very bad sexual strategy for men in the modern day. Sure, in 12,000 BC, forcing yourself on every single woman you met then running away before the tribal leaders could murder you would have been an effective way to ensure your genetic line survived. But here in 2024, the odds of being caught and punished are incredibly high, plus your victims are very likely to be on the pill and not get pregnant, and would most likely abort any slim-chance pregnancy that resulted anyway. And all of this autistic logic about breeding completely ignores the moral implications. We live in a society with certain rules and standards, and violating those standards to the detriment of someone else is not good for our psyche.
Most men are not aggressive criminals. Most men, at least in the modern age, are laid back dweebs, present company included. Most men do not want to do wrong by their fellow humans.
But it only takes one man who decides to quit playing along, just one time, and today becomes the worst day of a woman’s life. And evil men do not carry signs informing everybody that they are the bad ones. In fact, many evil men have very little difficulty pretending to be good men and blending in with society. A woman has no idea which men are evil, so her safest option is to trust zero men.
Obviously, that is not a feasible long-term strategy in a society that is 50% male. Especially if a woman wants to live a fairly normal life and maybe get married and have children one day. So most women compromise by primarily avoiding any and all weird men who behave in awkward ways, and avoiding being alone with any man they do not know well enough to trust.
This is a bit of a sliding scale, obviously. A woman who meets a cute guy off of the internet for the purpose of casual sex will have a few drinks together somewhere public to make sure she trusts that he’s not secretly a murderer, and that’s usually good enough. She’s going home with him to have consensual sex, after all, so rape isn’t much of a concern, and the guy’s incentivized to be on his best behavior on other fronts to avoid running off a woman who’s there to have sex with him.
But any man a woman does not trust enough to have sex with is a potential threat. Because any man could harm her, even if very few men actually would do so.
Every time a woman makes it from point A to point B safely, part of the reason this was possible is because every man whose path she crossed chose not to harm her. She was only able to be safe because she had the implied permission of every man she passed to remain unharmed. This time.
Imagine how that must feel for a woman. Some educated, degreed professional with her own fancy apartment or house and money, maybe a boyfriend of her choosing or a fun life of casual sex, decent friends, maybe a few hobbies. She has equal rights and equal protections under the law. She’s smart, capable, contributing to society, her life is on the up and up, she has some value to humanity…
And the only reason this accomplished woman can make it from point A to point B without being raped is because random men let her. And these random men are just that — random. Many of them aren’t as smart or as accomplished as she is, some have objectively low value to humanity. Yet here she is, an accomplished, independent woman with a good life she’s worked hard to build, and her rights, safety, comfort — all of it — depend on the implied permission of random loser men letting her continue to have that life in peace instead of turning her into a victim. It must be maddening to be accomplished and powerless at the same time.
The fact that any man is a potential danger (again, even if most men never use their strength against women) causes women to feel a ever-present awareness of the men in the room. I hesitate to call it fear - maybe it would rise to the level of fear for women who have been through a traumatic experience. But most women have what’s best termed as a strong awareness of men. Their brains won’t let them tune out and ignore the presence of men, because those men are possible sources of danger, and it’s the primary job of the brain to protect us from danger.
Borrowing from Athol Kay a bit: your brain is not who you are. Your smart brain is just one of your body’s many evolutionary adaptations (like opposable thumbs) that have helped humanity dominate the earth. Some animals have stingers and exoskeletons, some have wings, some have horns, you have your brain. Your brain’s job is to help your body figure out how to get lots of food and water, stay safe from predators, the environment, and other dangers, and to breed a lot. Your brain doesn’t care that it’s 2024 and we have the internet or what the social standards are for our day and age. Your brain’s job is to feed you rationalizations that make behaviors that get you fed, keep you safe, and get you laid seem like good ideas.
When your brain tries to rationalize for you that it’s okay to eat that candy bar you just saw, it doesn’t know that it’s 2024 and intermittent fasting is good for you and processed carbohydrates are bad for you and you have an entire refrigerator full of chicken waiting at home that you’re going to arbitrarily wait until noon to start cooking and eating. When a woman’s brain makes it seem like it’s a great idea to go home with a cute guy from a wine bar the night she meets him, her brain doesn’t care about social standards and stigmas. It just wants her to capitalize on this good breeding opportunity with a guy who has good features for breeding, so it rationalizes for her why it is okay in this instance for her to have sex with a man she just met.
So when a woman’s brain forces her to be aware of the possible danger any and all men in the room represent, that’s the brain doing its job. She can’t turn that off. In fact, if her brain wasn’t keeping her aware of men, that would be her brain malfunctioning. So not only are accomplished women at the mercy of loser men permitting them to make it from point A to point B without being harmed. They are plagued with a constant awareness of the men in the room, always on the lookout for awkward behaviors that could signal a threat, always careful to never let themselves be in a position where they may be in actual physical danger, always careful to navigate around men and consider them. Again, how maddening must this be?
This is why very minor social behaviors, like how a man sits or where he directs his eyes and for how long, or God forbid talking to a woman who is not receptive to him, feel like more-than-minor big-deal issues to many women. Because these behaviors are like a glass of ice water in the face, reminding women that men don’t have to respect women or consider their comfort if we don’t want to. That every second of comfort, every second of feeling safe, every second of being respected, is a choice by men, and some random guy with his seating position or his gaze or God forbid an awkward conversation can unsettle all of that.
Yes, men are stronger than women, and if a man wants to, he can beat, murder, rape, or rob most women he comes across. And there is no social method that can be used to compensate for this. At least not without going full-dystopian. There is no legal right that can be won, no law that can be passed, no educational initiative, no social awareness — nothing that can be done that will make men not be stronger than women and capable of harming them.
When it comes to the modern “gender war”, there is no win-condition for women that is not dystopian. Because no matter what social concessions are made, women will never feel completely safe. Not until all men are in cages, or all women are on their own island, or we genetically alter boys to not grow muscles, or some other radical dystopian change.
So when angry women act angry and bitchy about you, or “men”, or “those red pill guys”, maybe they have a reason to feel angry. Not because you, personally, are going to harm women, but because they were born into a no-win situation, simply by being born female. Here is a reasonably intelligent and capable creature - even a self-sufficient and accomplished one in many cases - who at the same time is completely powerless and at the mercy of men due to an inborn physical inferiority she can never overcome no matter how much she accomplishes or how hard she fights the system.
How maddening it must be to be one of these angry women! So when us internet men take to the mean streets of the internet, think about what’s really going on behind everyone’s words and a lot of the crazy and the angry and the radical starts to make more sense.
