“The Wall” is a remarkably simple Red Pill concept that really pisses off a decent-sized chunk of the internet for some reason, when the basic concept is pretty undeniable: as a woman ages, she is going to reach a point where the declines associated with age limit her ability to have the sex and relationships she would like to have.
I know that this seems completely obvious and undeniable. I know the fact that humans age and become less attractive with age seems like such an inherent truth to life that this shouldn’t even be a discussion.
But this is the internet. And women are women.
Nothing cheeses off women more and gets them screeching about exceptions and outliers than lumping them in with a completely-true, obvious, and pretty-much undeniable generalization. Even one as undeniable as “we’re all getting older”.
As we get older, we become less physically attractive. Both sexes. Sure, there are some women who eat right, groom well, stay in shape, have good genes, and can maintain an attractive physical appearance past a numerical age someone else might consider “old”. We can’t draw a line in the sand and declare “100% of women are ‘too old’ past age…” 25, or 35, or 45, or even 55. Biology comes with a lot of randomness. And cosmetic surgery options can muddy these waters even more.
But it is undeniable that 100% of women will eventually reach a point where the declines associated with age limit her access to the sex and relationships she would like. Sure, there are outliers, but the trend-line is pretty clear. An attractive 45-year-old who is “still hot” or “pretty for her age” probably isn’t as hot as she was at age 25, unless she was fat or unkempt in her youth and improved herself — but then that would just be a failure to achieve her potential when younger, and had she done so, younger-her probably had greater potential than older-her.
Dating and hookups cloud the issue. There’s always someone out there for everyone, and the male sex drive knows no bounds.
No matter how old or less-attractive a woman becomes (within reason), a woman will still be able to find someone, somewhere willing to have sex with her. But over time, who those someones somewhere are tends to shift a bit. Eventually, there comes a time where even though a woman may find willing sexual partners, she will start to have a more difficult time having the sex and relationships she prefers. Essentially, the quality of the guys willing to date her seriously starts to taper off, then the quality of guys willing to hook up with her starts to taper off, then the quality of guys willing to associate with her at all.
Then one day she wakes up and decides she’s done with the game (either due to boredom and frustration, or due to lack of success from the declines associated with age) and wants to settle down. 10 years ago, she might have been able to find a husband without too much trouble and settled down just fine, but today, the quality of guys willing to marry her — not just have sex tonight, but marry her — tends to be a little less than the quality of guys from 10 years ago. An older woman can usually still find sex, and maybe even a husband if she’s lucky, but not always the sex and relationships she actually wants, or dreamed of when she was younger. Sure, some older women can still pull off an exceptionally good outcome sometimes, but that’s the exception, not the rule.
This clear-as-day concept is really pretty undeniable: We’re all getting older, and the older we get, the less physically attractive we are. Maybe there’s an outlier human who looks hotter for longer. Maybe there’s an outlier human who gets in better shape when they reach middle-age when compared to their youth. But the trend line is unmistakable: hotness is inversely proportional to age.
I’m picking on women because I’m an evil Red Pill misogynist, but this isn’t just a girl thing.
There is a “male wall” too, focused on the same undeniable truth: as we age, we all eventually reach a point where the declines associated with age limit our ability to have the sex and relationships we would like to have. There are outlier men, and we can do some things to slow the descent, but the trendline is unmistakable.
Women don’t like balding, gray-haired, elderly men with wrinkled skin and stooped backs as sexual partners. Those guys are too ugly to have sex with, unless they’re paying for it.
And as much as the Red Pill community and the larger manosphere will argue against it, young women in college and their early 20s don’t typically like 45-year old men with a few grays and little wrinkles around the eyes when they smile, even if the guys go to the gym and are muscular. It happens sometimes, but that’s the exception, not the rule.
But appearance is skin-deep.
As much fun as it is to dwell on hotness and make fun of people’s appearance on the internet, a much larger issue than looks is physiology. If you want to have kids, younger is better. For both sexes. Higher age is associated with greater difficulty becoming pregnant, an increased risk of complications during the pregnancy and birth, and an increased risk of defects in the child.
Even if growing older doesn’t take away everybody’s hotness at exactly the same rate, age and time take away options all the same. While modern medicine has come a long way and there are some medical backup plans to try to have children if we’re too old for the conventional way to work reliably, these backup plans are more like desperation than actual plans. A round of IVF costs a five-digit number of dollars and results in carrying a successful pregnancy to term well under 50% of the time on the average. (For women over 40, the average success rate is under 10%.)
Even in a magical world where our faces and bodies remained hot forever, the idea “I can settle down and have a family any time I want later on” is a bad medical bet.
But we know this. All of us. We’ve always known this. Because it’s obvious.
Deep down inside, we all know that “the wall” is coming for all of us. Men too.
This is why middle-aged internet women feel compelled to argue that they are still attractive, point out the outliers who have successful IVF outcomes, post pictures of hot middle aged women, and so on. At age 20, they weren’t doing this, because nobody needs to tell anybody that 20 year old women can be hot. Everybody knows that.
Only when her own life circumstances create a need to justify that she is still on the path to success does an older woman feel compelled to speak out about it.
And this is why middle-aged and incel internet men feel compelled to argue that through some magic acquisition of “status” they can find attractive younger women later in life and have the families they always wanted because of some Red Pill truth they read somewhere. At age 20, they weren’t saying “Older men can still get women using status!” That’s not something 20 year old boys think about.
Only when their own life circumstances create a need to justify that they are still on the path to success do they feel compelled to speak out about it.
The war against time is unwinnable. The passage of time takes away our options. Slower for some of us than others, yes. And there are things we can do to help slow the decline. But the wall is not defeatable, because the wall is time itself.
