I passed a shit test this morning regarding breakfast/lunch. She came into the bedroom around 10ish (I slept late this morning) talking about how much she was craving Chinese food. A while later I got up and came out into the living room. She’d agreed to do the dishes the night before, since I had cooked steaks for dinner, but she hadn’t done them yet. Overall, not a big deal. I generally do the dishes, and generally get them done… but I’m really bad about when they get done, so I’m hardly going to get upset because she didn’t do them the night before.
However… 9 times out of 10 in the past when she’s agreed to do dishes because I cooked… she hasn’t done them. This time was going to be different.
Me: [entering the living room] If you’ll clean out the sink enough so that I have room to wash the pans [one load of dishes was what she agreed to on Saturday, so this was fine] I’ll make us some bacon and eggs.
Hermione: [smiling] I was going to try and con you into getting Chinese [score - beat the shit test], but ok. [And the dishes are getting done!]
Later on in the afternoon she went running, completely on her own initiative. It wasn’t a long run (she’s still a bit out of shape and a bit sick), but it’s the first time she’s done that in over a year.
Best of all, we spent a good portion of the day pseudo-making out. By which I mean there were a lot of short kissing sessions interspersed throughout the day. On the other hand… I probably would have made more progress if I’d initiated fewer of these and/or pushed her away a couple more times than I did. To much pull, not enough push. Also, not particularly the most passionate of makeout sessions. Still, about 100 times more passionate than we’ve been having, so definite improvement. But we can do better.
In general, though, I backed off the Game just a hair today. She needed it a bit. It’s still on enough that she’s more than a little confused – she knows the rules have changed, but she hasn’t figured out the new ones yet. But she needed a bit of a breather.
Also… I have a plan. I will share it after I pull it off (probably Friday night).
