Are Women Are Evil Crazy Bitches Out To Get Us?

There was a comment on ”When Her Anger Is Just A Tactic” that I think needs a full answer. At some point in reading Manosphere blogs pretty much everyone has asked this same question

Anon:  Tell me again why I should bother with women or marriage? Remind me why I should morally and legally dedicate myself to a life of psychological head games, emotional manipulation, and sharing a house with a spoiled, selfish, immature child who subconsciously expects me to be her Daddy (and that’s assuming she’s one of the “good ones”!)? On top of that, if I don’t deliver my “Game” just right, sweetheart gets bored and “falls out of love with me”, witholds sex, has an affair, and then proceeds to crush my life into little pieces via our wonderful legal system. Riiiiiight. Maybe I’m missing something but what exactly do *I* get out of this deal again? All I see are men being required to cater their behavior to suit the emotional whims of women while trying to convince themselves they’re really clever for doing so. Why aren’t women required to just grow the Hell up, take responsibility for their behavior, and quit acting like selfish, bratty children and learn to get along with men? Or is that just too much to ask?

I’ll be honest guys – Game just makes me hate women.

Athol: You already know exactly what you get from a good marriage, you want it, but you just don’t know it is possible for you to achieve. Then it’s a small step to jump to saying you hate women and don’t want to be in a relationship with one. This is the sour grapes response.

Women are the way they are with men, because they historically have taken enormous risks in having sex with a man. We’re so used to modern medicine saving women and babies via Caesarean Section that we don’t really think consciously about the risks of pregnancy anymore. In addition to that, women expend enormous resources being pregnant, and are committed to spending them far into the future with having a child.

As a result women are hypergamous and seek the highest quality mates they can find. Which is, you must admit, a pretty reasonable strategy to pursue on the whole. Women aren’t illogical, they are following a rational strategy. They aren’t random, they have a predictable pattern of interaction with men they are interested in.

It’s a little like playing Pac-Man. At first the ghosts just chase you down and trap you, but after a while you get better at avoiding them and get a better score. However “back in the day”, top level players simply worked out the programming of the ghosts and would run set patterns for screen after screen of Pac-Man. Essentially the game could be beaten and the game actually bugs on the 256th screen and can’t be passed.

The purpose of Game is to figure out those patterns of action women take and then preempt them by running our own patterns of behavior. This all sounds manipulative on the part of Gamers, and that’s because it is manipulative. But when the end goal is you get what you want from your wife because she’s happy and excited to be in a relationship with you, most women don’t actually care that they are being played.

Even the simple things like understanding how ovulation drives female sexual behavior is a huge revelation to most men. Before you know about it, women seem terribly random and confusing. After you know about it, you can mark off nights for rough sex in your day planner for months ahead.

The other half of the problem making women seem confusing to men, is that they have a strategy of misdirection. Ovulation isn’t just ovulation, it’s concealed ovulation. Just like when a magician doing a trick wants you to pay attention to their right hand, they wave it dramatically to draw your eye to it, meanwhile their left hand does something sneaky. It’s extremely difficult to fool other magicians though because they know the magic game so well. The kicker is that most women don’t even know they are misdirecting and can be fooled by their own emotions bouncing around as their man is. You don’t think they are really that angry about the way things are stacked in the dishwasher do you?

Once you get good at this stuff, it’s almost amusing how easy it is to predict how your wife will react to you doing different things. If I absolutely pound the crap out of Jennifer in bed, 99% of the time the next day she’s cuddly and clingy. Then I lightly tease her about it because that makes her make her pouty face and snuggle into me even more. Cause and effect my love.

And yes half of what I talk about on MMSL is basic behavior tactics. If your wife is behaving like a spoiled brat, that’s because in no small part you’re allowing her to act that way in the relationship. Women tend to be responsive to men in sexual relationships, so if she’s being a bitch, look to your own behavior first and see if you are part of the problem by enabling that bitchiness… if only by your toleration of staying in a relationship with a bitch.

Importantly, this is ancient programming, and simply isn’t going to change any time soon. So learn it, or don’t learn it, but there’s no way to unknow what you already know. So you may as well push through the hump and master Game rather than stop halfway into the process.

It is very important to make a good choice in a wife, but after that, it’s really not all that difficult to keep a basically good woman happy and content being your wife by paying attention to the basics of Game. It just requires effort.