Girl Game: Find Out What Turns Him On

Some things basically attract all men: nice skin, nice hair, nice eyes, nice boobs, nice butt yada yada yada. You do what you can with that of course, but you can’t exactly spin a cocoon around yourself and suddenly bust out in six weeks like a magical tits-and-ass-butterfly either. What you really want is something easy and practical to score some easy points in the attraction department.

Well sometimes those things really do exist as there’s often some sort of accessories or clothes that turn your man on in particular. So they work for him, but not all men. He’s not always going to tell you about them as some of these things can be deeply personal veins of erotic kink for him. He may or may not understand why he feels as he does about them either.

So you’re going to have to ask him about what things turn him on, or he may have already told you some of them and you’ve ignored them. Once you get it into your head to do them, they are always automatic +1 attraction when you do them. You don’t even need to understand these things and often they can seem to most people to be decidedly mundane. You initial reaction is quite possibly going to be confusion rather than icky repulsion.

Some of my own personal kink follows…

Big hoop-like gold earrings – I will always absolutely zone out and stare at them. Always an automatic +1 on any woman wearing them. This one I know is related to my first serious girlfriend Mary wearing a lot of big hoop-like gold earrings as part of her overall look. The experience of feeling intense attraction somehow got anchored into these damn earrings. It’s not like I even drift off and start remembering Mary either, it’s just a +1 associated with that sort of earrings. (You would think that Jennifer would have a small collection of these, but she doesn’t. I don’t know why either, I’ve mentioned it on several occasions, but don’t want to mention it again because things are going so well right now between us.  Jennifer adds: DOH!  Must buy big hoopy earrings…)

Blonde Hair – I mentioned that yesterday. Blonde hair is always +1 for me. That’s not wildly uncommon, it’s just there. Why this one is, I’m not 100% sure, but that’s probably another attraction anchoring thing from my endless elementary and middle school days crush on Kristen who had… blonde hair.

Sundresses – I do like dresses in a general sense, but sundresses just do me in. Not sure exactly why this one is for me. Awkward relationship friendship girl Rebecca wore a lot of these, but I think it might predate her a little, but that probably anchored the interest further.

Actually the sundress thing is a perfect example of where when he reveals “look these really turn me on” and you just go “Huh?” at him. You’re expecting him to say something like “I want to see you wearing nothing but a G-String tuned to A”, and instead you think you heard him mumble something about sundresses.

Jennifer was wearing a blue and white dress the day I met her. I can’t remember her wedding dress unless I look at a photo. I do remember that blue and white dress though. Even though she couldn’t wear it anymore post-pregnancies, when she threw it out during a spring cleaning I was pissed off about it, which surprised both of us lol.

Stockings - No idea on cause. Just OMG hot.

The deepest one though is just ridiculously simple. It’s the color pink. I get transfixed by something as simple as a $10 pink T-shirt. That’s seriously a +2 for me. I have no idea why that is. Just no idea at all. I never had a girlfriend that wore pink anything in particular, I can’t even remember a particular crush that layered up the pink.

If the 80′s could come back and that shocking hot pink lipstick could just return to stores anywhere I would be eternally grateful. We’ve found some shades close and I’m happy enough with them.

As you can see, most of those items are not all that hard to find or wear. It’s a certain type of earring. A few blonde highlights. A dress once in a while. Wearing stockings to bed once in a while. A handful of pink shirts and lipstick once in a while. These are things that work for me in particular rather than all men, and Jennifer using them are only mildly inconvenient at worst to her, but she gets a big payoff in my interest in her. Sometimes it’s even easier that what you think would work better… a comfy pink sleep shirt beats $100 of lingerie for me.

Well… unless it’s pink and black lingerie.

So ask him what turns him on in particular. Then all you have to do is work it into your clothing rotation and you’re good to go. Not every single day, just in the rotation. Though I do warn you, if you ask him and he clearly communicates to you something that is cheap, easy and non-offensive to do…

…failing to follow through on that will probably backfire on you quite impressively. The bigger the turn on it is, the bigger the shitstorm you will have created. Don’t fuck with people’s kink.