Male Mid-Life Crisis Is A Myth

The male mid-life crisis isn’t what you think it is, it’s about how old the man’s wife is. A forty year old man with a forty year old wife has a mid-life crisis, a forty year old man with a twenty-five year old wife doesn’t. A twenty-five year old man with a forty year old wife has a “mid-life crisis”. It’s really not about his his age,  it’s about his partner moving into a non or markedly less fertile phase of life, and his Body Agenda deciding to search for someone else that is more fertile. It’s best to think of it as a “partner not so fertile crisis”.

What happens when you have a “partner not so fertile crisis” is that your own body starts up a set of programming called “The Rationalization Hamster”. The Hamster just goes into overdrive trying to drum up reasons to be pissed off at your spouse, ways to look on them negatively, ways to blow up minor issues into larger ones and generally any excuse to justify running off with a new partner or getting some on the sly.

On a hard wired level the Body Agenda impulse is going to drive your impulses towards finding another mate. Essentially all the Body Agenda cares about is whether or not you have an adequate food supply and can probably attract a younger vagina as to whether not to unleash the Rationalization Hamster. The Body Agenda knows nothing of divorce laws, child support, the 401k or how hard it is to get full market value from your house when you have to sell quickly. Frankly the Rationalization Hamster is pretty irrational when it comes to that sort of thing, it’s really more like one of those Disney personal shoulder devils.

So anyway have a think about that and whether or not you are tearing apart your own relationship with bullshit from the Rationalization Hamster if your wife is mid-30s to early 40s. Your wife may have been doing just fine and been ideal as a wife and your best friend. But the Body Agenda doesn’t care about any of that, it just thinks there’s enough food for another baby to be fed.

This is why seemingly smart men can self-destruct themselves half-way through life. After everything goes down, even if it goes fairly smoothly, many men can ultimately regret leaving their wife for a younger woman. Often the only thing the younger woman has over the wife is that she is younger, there can be a sick moment of realization that your wife was a better woman and that you were actually happier with her. Having assloads of money aside… when you are 40-something you just aren’t going to get the same level of quality of woman interested in you as when you were a 20-something.

For the ladies reading wondering what to do about their “mid-life crisis” husbands…  You get yourself in the best shape you can and you turn up the sexy. Basically you mimic the behavior and appearance of a younger more fertile woman as best you can without looking like a try hard. And try not to get drawn into stupid fights with his Rationalization Hamster, that just makes it stronger, louder and more idiotic. And to be completely blunt now not is not the time you should be demanding that he love you just the way you are because you are a precious snowflake. That just underlines that you aren’t what you used to be and intenstifies the problem.

Tomorrow… women’s end of fertility crisis…