Maybe Isn’t A No, It Means Keep Talking…

Athol:  A selection of comments from Flipper…

Flipper: Email exchange sent- she can’t get texts in her office. “Subject: I’m feeling like taking a ride tonight, body: to pound town.  You coming?” 

Her response: “Maybe……”

How do I proceed?

Athol:  You opening question is fine. Her response is “I’m almost interested, can you sell me a little more?”

Flipper:  I went with “If you don’t want to come, that’s your choice.  Then I  can get there exactly how I want to without you giving me direction.”

Athol:  Eeek! Your response basically said, “Well fuck you then, you’re kind of a bossy bitch.” So don’t say that.

Flipper:  This is why I come to this site. I didn’t get a reply from the second one.  I’ve got a lot to learn for sure.  One problem I do have is that it is work email and I can’t use words that are going to trip the spam filters.  So I have to outsmart the filters and use innocent words even if the message is supposed to be saucy.

Athol:  Okay… for now, you should apologize for being cranky with her, and then say you just feel kinda bad tempered today and if you come home you’re just going to be cranky at home too, so you should take some space and go do something to relax / calm down rather than pick on her all night. Go ride go-karts, or smack some balls in a batting cage or something completely benign and male.

Okay… next time around… Jane you’re up…

Jane:  You don’t want to come off in a way that every makes her feel like she’s not wanted.  If your goal is more sex,  you’ve GOT to leave room for her to keep her pride and come with you and you’ve got to TURN HER ON if you want her to come to you.   I’m positive the first email got a smile, it’s very cute and silly.  At that point, she’s sexually neutral, but she’s open to more interaction with you.  She responded in a “if you play your cards right” kinda way.   The problem is, that your response was the equivalent of walking away from the table.  Yeah she could follow u, but she’s not turned on, so there’s no reason to get up out of her chair.

You have to keep playing all day long and you’ll get more an more escalation.   if you keep your cute frame about taking a trip, you can go along the vein of kidnapping her for the ride if she’s generally turned on rape fantasy stuff, you could come back with an email about stopping for something to eat on the way if she’s into oral, you can bring back elements of maybe some memories of car sex you guys have had in the past.

Or you can toss it back in her court with “what do i have to do to get you to yes” (I actually think a while back Athol had a good post where he escalates using a car salesman style sexual escalation – “I could thow in hair pulling for free” etc) but even tossing it back, gives her the chance to play back with you “i might be interested if you threw in a back rub” etc…it’s the GAME that’s the turn on.  It’s the break from the monotony of the day where she’s thinking about you and your evening all day and getting slowly progressively more turned on.

Athol:  I like this Jane, she can stay. (Gives Jane a chocolate.)

Anyway…

If you can’t text her because of the cell phone reception, and have to email her only on her work computer and have to avoid the naughty words, then you have to work around that by setting some code words like people used for prostitution services in the “Help Wanted” section of newspapers back in the olden days of the New Zealand Herald. Though I guess I might have completely misunderstood what Busty Brianna was offering by advertising ”French Polishing” for $100 an hour.

My suggestion is discussion of an ongoing plumbing problem in your house. It lends itself well to metaphor…

The water pressure seems unusually high today…

The sink in the master bathroom is dripping again…

So shall I go to Home Depot for a new faucet, or do you want to come pick one out with me?

There seems to be a lot of hair clogging the bathroom sink, I’m going to remove it all tonight.

Oy… there’s six inches of water in the basement waiting for you when you get home.

Gonna try and fix the shower head tonight, but I’ll need your help for a few minutes.

Careful with the spray hose in the kitchen, it’s jammed and it will soak you if you try to use it.

Otherwise as Jane suggested, just keep it playful and engaging and keep it going until she folds and wants to cum with you.

If all else fails, tell her if she comes and behaves herself she can control the radio in the car on the way back. Say that with a very naughty boy look to her.