Reader Story: Kissed Another Man In Front Of Me

Dear Athol

I would like to thank you for your regular e-mails. Thanks to your help and those of similar like-minded people, I have turned my marriage around.

I was having very little sex and being shown a great deal of disrespect from my wife. On one occasion, about 18 months ago, she even allowed another man to kiss her in front of me, and it was no small kiss. I had to intervene to stop it.

After that incident I decided I had to take control of my marriage, but had no idea of how to go about it. I was Mr Nice Guy, who did everything he could to help his wife and children. But it got me no thanks and even less respect.

I no longer defer to her, give her any special treatment or act needy. I flirt with other women and let her know about it. I ignore her constant complaining and do not let her be the centre of my life.

It has taken a while to turn things around, partly because I am a slow learner, but I am now having regular sex, twice a week, which is what I wanted. Furthermore, I am having very little moaning and complaining. I don’t think I can ever really understand women, they make no sense at all. But what you teach about being alpha definitely works. I know you also teach that there are times you should be beta too. I agree, but since I have done too much of that already, I will keep with the alpha for a while.

Although your blog is intended just for marriage, I think it should also be noted that becoming a more alpha man has benefits outside marriage, benefits you rarely mention.

For example, I have noticed that relations with my female work colleagues have improved significantly. They are treating me with much more respect than I was getting before. And I am now confident that if my wife ever decided to leave me on a Monday, I would probably be sleeping with a better looking chick by the weekend. And I think that confidence shows, my wife can can pick up on it and no longer feels so powerful. I also find myself opening up women on the street, on train and bus stations. Just about everywhere with ease. I got 50% discount on a book from the sales girl after chatting her up the other day and the girl at my works canteen gives me extra helpings every time!

Keep up the Good Work.

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