Sexy Move: Find Some Stolen Time Together

If Game can be summarized into three words, it’s “instigate, isolate, escalate”. The instigation being that sense of playful engaging interaction with her. Whether that’s banter, teasing, deep and meaningful talking, humor or whatever, you’re trying to start something with her beyond asking her what’s for dinner.

Escalate being the “always be closing” approach of physical touch, sexual touch and lets go to the bedroom. I’m not saying very time you touch you are forcing the issue towards naked sexy time, just that you are setting the intent that there will be a sexy naked time and it’s going to be good. If she wants sex, you can follow through on that.

Instigation and escalation are fairly easily done in a marriage. You can always talk and play together, and no one gets offended if a married couple play a little grab ass and kiss each other. But the harder one to get done is isolation if you have a couple little cockblocks roaming your house asking for things to eat and allowance.

So you need to find ways to get rid of the kids or manage to shake them off. Everyone talks about weekly Date Nights like they are the Holy Grail of a good marriage, but honestly they can be fairly expensive to do routinely. I think Jennifer and I have done 3 or 4 of them this year.

What we do though is try and find sneaky ways of alone time together. Our kids are old enough to be home alone so Jennifer and I often do grocery shopping together. That seems kinda dull I know, but we’re together without the kids and just get to hang out like the old times. Plus we can plan the meals we’re cooking together during the week. I get to do the heavy lifting and stuff like that. We both like it.

Also shopping only really takes about an hour and we’re usually gone for about an hour and a half. There’s a Panera next to the grocery store and we have coffee and a medium fancy snack / lunch of some sort together and just talk.

The kids have no clue that we actually escaped them and had fun.