There Is No Such Thing As “Getting Over It”

I have been told by a lot of people who have read this blog that I need to “get over” everything women have done to me.  They say that I should forget about how I have experienced false sexual harassment charge after false sexual harassment charge.  There is no such thing as “getting over it”.

These people who say “get over it” refuse to deal with what actually happened to me.  They claim that I somehow caused women to make false sexual harassment charges against me despite not being able to explain what the cause actually was.  Or they will try and minimize it by saying that I have only had one false sexual harassment charge made against me to make it sound like some fluke that I’m overreacting to.  They refuse to admit that it happened over and over again.  This is important because it means that eventually I will get another false sexual harassment charge made against me or something like it in the future despite everything I have done to prevent it.  To be able to “get over” something, there needs to be a strong possibility that it won’t happen over and over again.

The other problem with “getting over it” is that anyone who says it wants to make it all about me.  I’m not the only man this has happened to.  And what about the men who have had false rape charges or false abuse charges made against them?  They have it worse than I do.  I am not the only one who has gone to great lengths to avoid false charges from women.  I found this comment at The Spearhead about how men in Fortune 500 companies are avoiding false sexual harassment charges.

I’m told by some people in the Fortune 500 world that the younger men nowadays are taking a “buddy” system approach; they always go to the break room or any meetings with a buddy, so that there is always a witness to any interaction with any female. And I’m also told that increasingly in the technical areas, women are avoided as much as possible, in order to minimize the risk. No closed door meeting with any woman, any time, without at least one witness. All anecdotal, I admit, but a rational response.

Try telling all these men who have use the “buddy system” to protect themselves in the workplace to “get over it”.  See how far you get.

“Getting over it” is bullshit.