If you separate out the functions of sex, you get a much clearer picture. The primary function is making babies, but since we now understand the mechanical and biological aspects and women highly fertile when compared to most other animals that can only reproduce once a year, this function is something we can set aside. Babies are a lot of trouble, expensive in the long run, and require careful consideration and planning.
So what other functions does sex serve?
We could say that in the human realm, sex is a low cost, easily accessible: entertainment, pastime, sport, exercise, and relaxation. Few people dislike sex entirely, and those that do usually have either health or religious issues. What’s not to like about sex?
It’s a perfect amount of exercise, especially if you take your sport seriously. For almost zero cost, you can while away a rainy winter’s evening or the entire weekend, rubbing your genitals together with a partner (or three). It’s invigorating, enjoyable, and science has shown distinct health and psychological benefits to both sexes who get their freak on more regularly. It’s also a social activity, something we could do with a bit more of in the “modern” era where we are all glued to screens for most of the day.
Aside from the obvious disease issues, which by-and-large can be prevented, controlled, or mitigated entirely by having a regular sex partner (s), there really aren’t any issues with the sex act itself. Birth control is relatively easily taken care of, so we ought to be enjoying far more erotic evenings than we are. Why does a housewife go to the gym and pedal a bike like a hamster, or contort herself in some sweaty yoga class, smelling the ass of the chick in front of her when she could be at home doing the splits with hubby?
Social Glue
This is where the evil and the nonsense creeps in. Because child-raising is a high-maintenance, costly, and long-term business that is nearly impossible for one parent alone, sex has always been seen as a social glue. In reality this is an absolute load of nonsense. I myself have had most excellent and satisfactory sex with complete strangers who didn’t even speak my language. Much of the “social glue” aspect of sex harkens back to tribal and religious ideals that are completely out of date in the modern era
Even the concept of love is bullshit in my opinion, because I’ve experienced wonderful loving feelings with a one night stand I never saw again. It was true in that moment in time, and in all honestly it was better preserved without ever repeating it. What is a long-term relationship other than a moment in time? Who is to say how long that time should last? Love for one’s family is healthy, where sex is just an obstacle that creates assumptions of “social glue” where none exist.
In the past, it was the practical aspects that got in the way. The last thing the tribe wanted was a single mother on its hands. A man who impregnated a woman and disappeared left the tribe with a mother and baby to take care of. It doesn’t take a Ph.D sociologist to figure out that too much of that behavior would put the tribe out of business. Thus sex was taboo, a sin reserved only for those bound in holy matrimony. Women were taught to withhold sex, men were taught to respect women and seek marriage. Society demanded these standards and blackmailed those who rejected them. Sex was the carrot, religion was the stick—mumbo jumbo used for very intelligent and necessary social engineering.
Today though, we have an obsolete social program. The truth is that a call girl can undress and get down to business without it requiring any communication skills whatsoever, never mind a genuine social bond. Many of us castigate the younger generation of women for being whores and find homosexuality “disgusting,” and yet sex is a universal language that everyone speaks. What is it that we are all so hung up about?
The Secret Is Out
The manosphere has confirmed for the entire world that women are just as, if not more horny than, men. Women spend more time thinking about, preparing for, and looking for sexual partners than men do, albeit in a more subtle and random manner. Why do those four young girls go out to a bar together on a Saturday night, instead of giggling at home? Because there are no chances to run into handsome men at home. Why does the office chick show up with a half inch of war paint, smelling like a perfumery? In case Mr. Right comes into the office today.
Women love to put themselves on show. Women present themselves to the world to be sexualized, whereas men want to bang bitches. The process is the passive female versus the active male approach. We cannot ignore that women spend a vast amount of time and money on looking sexy and presenting themselves as sexual beasts. In many ways, the player does the girls a favor by releasing them from their passive search and providing exactly what they are looking for. A girl doesn’t necessarily seek a life partner to have babies with.
The argument that a girl becomes broken and whorish from having too many partners is valid, but only to a point. It holds water, but only if she has fully subscribed to the old socio-religious model where sex is the social glue. It’s certainly true that a woman is more likely to develop deeper feelings and be more loyal to her partner if her notch count is relatively low, but the reality of all the divorces and single mothers would suggest that “deep feelings” are generally paper-thin in the first place. As soon as there existed a mechanism for women to opt out of lifelong commitments, they most certainly did.
Couples today set themselves up for endless disappointments by making wild assumptions and life decisions based on an out-of-date model where sex was the social glue. Relationships were held in place by creating both a scarcity of sex and a moral taboo for those who tried to gain sex without the commitment. Only a couple of decades ago, the wife who ran off with the neighbor was a social outcast. Today it’s not unusual to find her still friends with her ex-husband, happily sharing the kids and having a baby with the new fella. Swinger resorts are booked out into 2016 so couples can go and get nasty with other couples. It’s an underground industry but clearly a very lucrative one.
In the past, couples who found they had a good chemistry got married and could expect to stay together for a lifetime. This is somewhat of an illusion though, because people died much younger and lived much tougher lives, so that when they did actually get to spend a little time together they valued each other’s company. In the past there simply wasn’t enough wealth, assets, social support, and technology for people to be able to split up, and the mechanics of finding a new partner were taboo.
Where once your lover was the goddess you wrote love letters, that lady of the light you lived and died for, now she’s the pain in the ass bitch who treats your phone like it’s some kind of digital leash or goes offline to bait you when you want to get hold of her. But the smart men (and women), know there is plenty more where that came from, so who cares? Next!
Come Out of the Closet
I don’t pretend to have any answers. There probably is no silver bullet, but I think it’s high time we got over the guilt laden ideas of “sin” and just enjoyed sex for the good cheap fun it is. Unfortunately, much of that side of the equation lies with the women, who will always hold the key to the door. With that said, men hold the key to partnership and provisioning, especially when children are involved. Even tasks like maintaining a well-organized home fall on the man more than it might appear. On a more short-term basis a man can easily hold the key to fun times and be the life and soul of the party.
Thus when it comes to co-habitation and babies, the solution is no longer provided by sex as the social glue, but by an intelligent long-term partnership and planning. If the gay boys have managed to come out of the closet, I think it’s high time all the straight people did too. We love sex. We love fucking, and what’s more we love fucking multiple people and it’s got nothing to do with co-habitation arrangements, sharing assets, or having kids. Kill the old model and a new one will most certainly grow in its place.
The biggest question here is whether women will be able to handle their gooey emotional (and unstable) feelings. They claim to want education, careers, respect and so forth, so perhaps we can start with a new approach to sex. They claim to want long-term relationships and families, but that dynamic is tedious at best.
In fact, whenever I’m surrounded by boring adults, I find myself wondering why they don’t all just get naked and have a fucking orgy. There’s basically zero chance of anyone spreading diseases, and getting laid is something all of these people have missing in their lives. People will laugh and call me insane, but that’s what happens to those who are ahead of their time.
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