Women’s “instinct” is centered around mating and social dynamics. Men go after life like a hunter chasing down prey. When not hunting, men simply get some R&R to recharge for the next mission. Men are “on or off’.” Women are a whole different ball game. In many ways, men think of women as a recreational activity, whereas women have a variety of “modes” that can make men’s “black and white” thinking can come unstuck.
Little Girl
Small children put on an act to get their way. Men are forced to grow out of this phase, since a whining man is unacceptable—but women are reliant on those around them so they never fully grow up. Recognizing “little girl” is the best defense. DO NOT try to communicate on her terms. Most relationship rows operate on this level. You don’t have an argument with a 5-year-old, you gently put it in it’s place. If that means simply walking away, then walk. Shut down the emotional blackmail right away, or it will never stop.
Serious Child
As children grow up, they become more “serious” about life and start play acting. Women use childish attributes for social engineering, whereas men rely on real skills and experience. Cliques, gossip, negative peer pressure, being “in-charge” and having the latest toy all fall into this mode. Serious children are fond of running to authorities. What is a false rape accusation if not “telling on you” to the head mistress.
Much of what goes on in Universities and careers is women play acting serious, as they did from 6-12 years. Try to operate on their level and you’ll find them far more adept than you, plus the outcome is often pointless and or negative. There is a big gap between clown alpha and a true red blooded man.
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Virgin Teen
As a girl matures sexually, she rapidly feels unwanted men’s attention. She has a variety of shields in this area, from gaggling together with BFFs, giggling, cutting comments, being confrontational, social shaming, emotional bullying, taunting, being flaky, getting embarrassed or shy, buttering up the superiors, gaining petty positions of authority, etc.
Women of any age will have teen attitude on hand and society tolerates it because she’s a woman. Shit tests and feminism falls into this category. Step over her defensive virginal BS, otherwise she’ll brush you off like dandruff or turn you into her drone.
Girlfriend
Women don’t have the luxury of living 20+ years of adult life to mature. They have a shelf life. Thus they will fall back on the modes of behavior. The girlfriend is where we find a lot of feminine traits that we seek. She’s committed, available, and so forth. She sees herself as “taken.” She will also keep herself nice, and try to impress. She’s very interested in presenting herself to the world as a woman.
She will mirror you a lot, which is why men think they’ve met their soul mate. A good girl meets an alpha and bangs on the first date—she’s mirroring his confidence and sex drive. This is also how a shy, angry, or petty person is able to project their negativity—if you allow it.
NAWALT is full girlfriend mode—Sure she’s not like any other mode. Good luck if you think that will last, but she will maintain it so long as it’s in her best interests.
Bitch or Slut
Here the problems really start. It’s just so easy for her to leverage sexuality for all manner of validation. Where men are shamed for using violence against women, women in the past were shamed for using sexuality for material or social gain. Today women are being actively encouraged to jump straight into this mode and avoid the “girlfriend mode” entirely. This mode is her way of expressing anger. She’s muscling up with her vagina.
While she can switch this mode off and revert to any of the other modes, once she’s learned it, it’s like a genie in a bottle. Much of what manosphere discusses in terms of negative female behavior relates to this mode. Your cock and her orgasms are the best tools in stopping this.
Childish behavior aside, this mode is the only real adult strength women have, and in the past all it amounted to was a nasty whore or a frigid wife. She will turn sex off, just as fast as she turns it on. The hardened feminist cunt is the opposite end of the spectrum to the slutty teen that has 10 boyfriends on Tinder.
Fiancée
The next three categories are versions of each other while ramping up the ‘serious’. If she feels she is getting into an LTR, (even if you think it’s casual) she takes her lead not from her man, but other female influences. A girlfriend you’ve slept with just a few times can soon morph into a fiancée, even if all you are buying her is condoms.
This is the time when she’s growing and discovering herself, within the confines of a relationship SHE can always opt out of. She’s got you hooked and the mistake that men make is they assume that their girlfriend is WYSIWYG. Once you spot fiancee mode, if you are not interested in wifeing her up, then back right off or split. Being emotionally detached (very different to the emotional repression women think men have), is the adult male way.
Kanye West (god help him), is a classic case of financée mode. He’s practically Kim’s wife now. This serious mode is why players resort to mini relationships. Be warned that this is also where the “mistake” pregnancy comes into play.
A man decides to get hitched to his easy going girlfriend (Paul Janka beware) only to discover her planning an expensive and hectic wedding. It seems totally out of character, but this again is a misunderstanding of the man who has only 2 modes…. Work or relax…. The female has many modes. She’s not that bothered about the wedding, it’s about dragging you into her domain and making you perform on her terms. Where necessary she’ll flatter your ego.
She’ll hang domestic crap around your neck to establish power dynamics in her favor. If you’ll bend to a pizza when you really wanted noodles, she knows she’s already got you cornered when more important issues come up. Men have no idea how women use subtle dynamics like this, to build themselves an emotional fortress inside your heart. (I don’t think women do either, it’s just instinct). It doesn’t have to be in a serious relationship or marriage, this mode can start day one.
Without your razor sharp leadership, she’s starting to take control and ignore your authority. She’ll giggle with her friends about that mole on your dick; nothing is private. It’s not about the friends or the mole, it’s about her building walls of confidence. You’re becoming her bitch and she’s got 20 fems backing her up and consulting to her on every move. Pillow talk, casual breakfast conversation, chit chat in the car late at night and so on – she’s laying some serious foundations.
Wife
While the fiancée mode builds power by busying herself, employing an army of female friends and making herself important, (all while entangling herself in your life), wife mode ties you down and keeps you busy while she relaxes. It’s all an act.
While most women will slowly slide from easy girlfriend to more serious fiancée, some jump straight here and none of this is black and white. A woman will implement whatever mode suits the moment.
The woman will identify and act the part. This is why it can be so irritating to work with women, because they put on this contrived showboat personality. Playing “The Wife” is a female specialty. She can copy her mother, your mother, her other married friends and so forth. Be wary if she has a BFF going through a divorce, because she might start copying her behaviors. These copied behaviors are why women’s magazines are so popular. It’s also why BFFs come and go like pairs of underwear. She ‘mirrors’ and ‘showboats’ to suit her purposes.
Wives can be great for their nesting skills until some home and garden item becomes a matter of life and death. The woman gets all domesticated, because bringing children into the world needs organization and stability. In doing so she’ll ramp up ‘the serious’ to fever pitch. The wife mode is where you are going to find the concept of soul mates is complete bullshit. Even if she did love deep powder skiing as your girlfriend, it’s way down her priority list now. She’d rather have you mowing the lawn while she browses at Ikea.
Men can easily get sucked into the novelty of having a wife for a while, until suddenly they miss their male activities. Too Late! What wife mode does is busy up your life with BS, so that you can’t easily stray. “Honey can you take the trash out” is all about keeping you busy, of course the witch can lift a 5kg garbage bag.
Subconsciously she’d rather you go broke watching cable on the sofa all week than wriggle out of her grasp. At the same time she’s pressuring you to be “successful,” but only in the conservative boring sense. Don’t underestimate this because many ambitious and intelligent men have been turned into middle class ghosts to keep her insecurities at bay. If you’re too successful you might decide to upgrade the wife for a younger model.
When you read this interview with Adam Clayton of U2, it’s incredible how little his wife has thought about his needs and existing lifestyle. She’s nagging him to come home. He probably rarely sleeps in the same place for more than a week or two. Did she consider what being his wife was going to be like? Ah no, because it’s all about her and the nesting instincts. The fun and inspiration gets sucked out of male pursuits with this wife chain around your neck.
Mother
Never under estimate the woman’s ability to turn on the authoritarian mother figure. Think “mother superior” in the nun’s school. For the first 10-12 years of your life, the female mother figure had full authority over you.
While the mother can be nurturing, she’s also the primary authority figure. The henpecked husband (Everyone Loves Raymond), is something she grows into. Like a creeping vine that started as a tiny weed, it can smother an entire building over a few years. This is how lively men end up in man caves dreaming of being rockstars, while she puts the bass guitar on eBay.
This is the end destination after she’s laid the groundwork of (self important) financée and (fake stressed) wife, using the other modes to get her way as she goes. What men don’t understand is she sees you as her personal property to do with as she pleases. After lockdown comes “I need some space”—which translates to “I’m fucking someone else.” If she’s not a cheater god help you, because your life will start to look like something from a retirement village.
Men lead with the ultimate authority of physical power combined with demanding respect due to their skills and position, (and add in a healthy dose of fun and relaxation). Women tend to “assume” authority. Fun and Risk is now banned. Relaxation is for the “useless” male drones. Get ready to be nagged and boxed into a corner if you don’t reign this in. 90% of LTRs end up here, so don’t underestimate it with black and white thinking. She is not your best friend, she is your woman and she needs to perform as such.
Fear
All these traits, while useful social engineering mechanisms, are COMPLETELY beneath a red-blooded male. Let her use the social skills on others. The little girl will get you the free upgrade at the rental car office. The Serious Girl will get you a refund. Wife can fix you a sandwich, or a comfortable home. Financée can fuck off, go back to being a girlfriend, or wife up and bear your children. Mother is for the kids and can also make a great secretary.
The uses are obvious, but you want them on your side. Notice how corporations employ the “mother” authority to firewall themselves from antsy customers, while the board of directors play golf. All the modes are useful. Women can be great managers but remember you are the CEO. Much like owning a Rottweiler or pit bull, you are the boss. Give out too many treats and your animal will not heel.
ALWAYS REMEMBER: No matter how sweet the Rottweiler is when it’s letting you tickle it’s tummy, it has many animal instincts that will come out, sometimes at random. It cannot help it. If you leave it alone with children, or if you behave like a child yourself, it may bite. You cannot make any black and white assumptions— you can only look to mitigate the negative sides of her “modes” and use the positives to your advantage.
