Something interesting has been happening since I returned home: I’m getting approached in bars a lot more, generally by cuter girls who are more direct in their affections.
Before I left, I’d get approached maybe once every couple months by a 5 or 6. I’d talk to her just to be friendly. But each week I’ve been back, girls are either gawking at me or just approaching me outright. The other night a pretty Greek girl said, “I saw you from across the bar and I told myself that you’re hot and I have to talk to you.” I don’t think I’m ugly but I don’t have stereotypical good looks valued by this culture. If the first time you are called hot is when you are 28 then you know something else is going on besides looks. What has changed in six months?
A friend of mine suggested that times are changing and girls are approaching more. I do believe this. I think the seduction industry has filtered down to girls and they are taking their sex / love lives in their own hands instead of waiting passively to be swept off their feet. But is six months too short for a cultural shift to occur?
My theory is impossible to prove and has to do with body language. I’ve always believed that a person’s experience, confidence, and attitude is somehow transmutated into their body language. Whatever I experienced in the past six months is being told, like a story, with the way I carry myself. This body language is hitting some unconscious button on a couple girls, and they act with the justification that I’m physically attractive. But looks without the context of body language or vibe is pretty useless unless you are a guy still oogling the pages of Playboy.
So what am I doing differently? Nothing… that I’m aware of.
