When it comes to running game in a club, I have found it’s best to find a girl whose energy level is slightly lower than yours. Otherwise, in such a loud and flashy atmosphere that feeds the ADD of even the smartest of women, she will get bored and not entertain your seduction. Clubs are therefore best suited for guys who have high amounts of energy and prefer to dance or chat continuously.
On a scale of 1-5, a high energy guy is a 5 and a stoic introvert, who prefers standing in silence, is a 1. You should aim for a girl who is either equal to you in energy or one point lower. In other words, men who have a 4 or 5 energy rating will have the largest pool of women in clubs who will be receptive to their game.
Imagine a pretty girl who has a 2 energy rating. She doesn’t go to clubs often and so she only knows two of the eight Rihanna songs that the DJ played during his set. She has little interest in trying to talk loud. Her dancing is more like swaying. If a 5 energy guy approaches her, he will bomb. She will see his energy as fake or unnatural. “Why is he acting like this,” she’ll think. “This club isn’t that fun. I should have stayed home to finish reading Tolstoy.”
Now imagine a 5 energy girl, pumping her fist, singing along with her favorite songs. A 3 guy approaches her with a desire to talk more than dance (if forced to dance, he can only put on a subpar performance). She will see him as boring or lame. “He doesn’t know how to party,” she’ll think. “Where are all the fun guys at?”
In my early 20′s, I was a 4 energy guy. I danced a lot and thus most of my pickups were on girls who liked dancing for extended periods of time. If a girl was low energy in the club, I wouldn’t get far because my escalation steps required her to expend a lot of energy on the dance floor so I could touch or grind my penis on her rear. Over the years, my energy has slipped to a 2. I can stand immobile for hours, and now I dance like a skyscraper moves during an earthquake. This has greatly reduced my club target pool because I have to look for girls with energy that is a 2 or lower. Therefore one of my club strategies is now to find the pretty girl who is obviously not having fun, because I know she’ll appreciate the fact that I’m also not excited about the venue. The type of girl I’d receive rejections from at 24 is one who I can now easily lay at 34, while the party girl I used to lay is now getting out of my reach.
Some guys create artificial states to raise their energy for the club, which can help propel them to a one-night stand, but if dating is required, the girl may be disappointed that you’re acting differently outside of the club atmosphere. This can happen the other way around when a girl you take out has far less energy than when she was dancing on tables showing her vagina to any man who chose to have a discreet peek up her skirt.
It’s a fantasy to believe that any girl in the club is a valid target. Unless you like churning through a dozen or two approaches a night, you have to be mindful about your target having equal or lower energy than you, within a narrow range. If you are a high energy guy, a club is the best place to find your counterpart. But if you’re low energy like me, you’ll waste a lot of time in venues where your match can be more easily be found in a supermarket or coffee shop.
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