I have gotten a few marriage proposals in the last year.
Some were sheer whimsy by the woman.
One was in the middle of coitus.
It wasn’t blurted out in excitment, or slipped out like some “I love yous” that have occurred.
It was a straight up, “Will you marry me?”
It is hard to describe the way the brain has to reorganize itself in that kind of situation. It made me realize that unlike James Bond, if someone attacked me during those moments I would probably pause for long enough to get killed, instead of seemlessly avoiding the attack and responding in kind.
I could practically hear the record skip and scratch (which if you watch some older movies you’ll get the metaphor).
I could not agree and amplify that one. I couldn’t deflect it either.
I just looked at her and said “No.”
She then bit me.
Hard.
That was the last time I would have anything to do with her.
I notice though that some women I am with feel compelled to act out violently. (yes, yes, its the type of women I hang out with blah blah blah, if I was a woman this would be called “blaming the victim”).
Do they think I will find that attractive?
I don’t.
Some want me to respond with violent domination.
I won’t.
What strikes me about it, is how unconcerned they are about acting this way.
A man that did some of these things would have to be justifiably concerned that he could be incarcerated. A hundred years ago, a woman that acted this way, would eventually get a complete beat down.
