I was over at Krauser’s PUA Adventure reading his archives and a thought struck me. His fairly direct day game approach can be sabotaged by lack of practice and preparation. Krauser goes into his day game technique of stepping in front of a HB, saying his opener, and then asking the girl, ‘So who are you?’
There’s all sorts of things to be aware of while pulling this off. Talking too fast, pecking, lack of eye contact. You get the idea. Now, there’s a couple of ways to get past this obviously. You could just approach, approach, approach, until the line becomes second nature and you’ve become relaxed about the delivery. The concern here is developing bad habits/behaviors that you aren’t conscious you are doing, and that after several rejections the approach anxiety may get overwhelming.
So what was it that got me thinking about this subject? Over the Christmas holiday my 3 year old relative got several Dr. Seuss books and was asking me to read them to him. Not a problem really, but some of the phrasing in those books is decidedly backwards from how you may think it should be. The first time through one of those books I made all kinds of errors. It’s one thing to read the words silently, it’s another to read them and speak them at the same time. But each time through the books (and let me tell you over a long 4 days with the extended family, you can read those books a lot) it got easier. After a while it gets to be second nature to read the story and it’s actually easy to add inflection and to do different voices for the characters. I also noticed I had no problem slowing down and pacing myself as I read the story.
So what does that have to do with my day game? I am practicing my opener, saying it out loud and watching myself in the mirror as I do it. I want to hear myself say the words clearly and slow enough that I don’t come off as a AFC. Just like with the Dr. Seuss stories, it does seem to make a difference and help me visualize how I want the interaction to proceed. Now to go forth and put it to good use.
