Pastors and Red Pill gurus continue to spread this lie by demonstrating that it’s true.

Readership: All
Targeted Readership: Men
Theme: Problems with The Red Pill
Author’s Note: Coauthored with Jack.
Length: 1,300 words
Reading Time: 7 minutes

Breaking Down the Lie

Humans of both sexes have free will and moral agency. Both sexes are sinners and hate being held accountable for their sin. Those who are NOT held accountable (regardless of their sex) will continue to indulge their sin, then blame everyone else for the consequences of their sin. The difference between the sexes is that (in general) women don’t get held accountable for their actions, and (in general) men do. The difference is that women love to hold men accountable, and men hate to hold women accountable. This is an inversion of Headship.

In Female Agency – An Elusive Induction (2024/3/30), Jack described why it is easy for men to cling to the notion that women have no free will or moral agency. Worse than this, the denial of Female Agency continues to be implemented as a deceptive tool to shift accountability from women to men and in some cases has morphed into a red-coated blue pill. Men keep falling for this not-so-obvious lie, largely because it is a man’s innate nature to care for a woman and assume responsibility as her head, not realizing that placing their balls in her paws is an obvious sex-selective trap.

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Here’s the natural progression of the lie.

  1. Women have no free will or moral agency.
  2. Because women have no free will or moral agency, they’re like vending machines.  Thus, if you give a woman the right input, she’ll give you the desired output.
  3. Because women are like vending machines, if you’re getting an undesirable output, it’s because you’re giving her the wrong input.
  4. Because you’re giving her the wrong input, her bad behavior is your fault.

Let’s look at a couple case studies.

Case Study 1 — Trad Con Churchians

A lot of complementarianish pastors like Mark Driscoll, Matt Chandler, et al. walk through this progression of assumptions in their sermons without ever explicitly saying so.  Through all their talk, these pastors arrive at the claim that, “If your wife doesn’t submit to you, then it’s your fault, because you’re just not godly enough, or loving her enough, or leading her well enough.”  Followed by a “Man Up!” rant in which “Man Up!” = ‘godly’, which is taken to mean the Chivalrous Nice Guy™.  We all know this doesn’t hold any water at all.

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Consider this quote from Matt Chandler’s sermon, “Woman’s Hurdles”.

“Men, here’s a great way to gauge how you’re serving, loving, and practicing your headship. If the most secularized feminist in the world showed up in your home and began to kind of coach your wife towards freedom and liberation from your tyranny, our wives should be so well cared for, so nourished, sowed into, and loved that they would be like “what you’re describing is actually tyranny, I love where I am.”

Matt Chandler, Woman’s Hurdles (2014/11/2)

Sounds great, right? Let’s apply that same “logic” to God and Eve.

“God, here’s a great way to gauge how you’re loving and practicing your Godhood over Eve. If the most deceitful serpent showed up in your garden and began to coach Eve towards freedom and liberation from your tyranny, Eve should be so well cared for, so nourished, sowed into, and loved that she should be like “what you’re describing is actually tyranny, I love where I am.”

If providing flawless Eve with the input of a flawless husband, and a flawless world in which to live did not produce the desired output of faithful obedience, what hope does a fatally flawed husband have to provide his fatally flawed wife with just the right input to receive from her the desired output in a fatally flawed world?

Surely, manly Red Pill men wouldn’t make the same mistake as a prissy pastor like Matt Chandler, right?

Case Study 2 — Red Pill Grifters

Red Pill grifters make the same deceptive mistake. They simply replace ‘godly’, or ‘loving’, or ‘leading’ with ‘Alpha’, or ‘Sigma’, or whatever nonsense ‘Red Pill’ term happens to be trending at the time.  If a man is ‘Alpha” enough, then his woman will inevitably, automatically fall in line, like a wandering planet falling into orbit around a sun.

This is why you’ll see Red Pill grifters telling men that if their women are behaving badly, it’s because the men aren’t ‘Alpha’ enough, or whatever.  In other words, the woman’s bad behavior is the man’s fault.  So buy the grifter’s course and you’ll learn exactly how to behave to get the right behavior from your woman, and when it inevitably doesn’t work, that means you did it wrong, so buy the grifter’s next course and be a better student this time (repeat ad infinitum).

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Don’t believe me? Here it is, straight from the horse’s mouth.

“Today’s women are as misbehaved as they’ve ever been in history. The reason for this is that they have no respect for Male authority. And who can blame them? Men have shown a gross ineptitude in dealing with their nonsense and the way laws are written these days all but encourages them to be as horrible as they can be.

A lot of Men are quick to blame their women for misbehaving but the fact of the matter is that if a woman steps out of line on your watch, it’s your responsibility.”

Donovan Sharpe: How to build a quality woman from the ground up

BTW, you don’t need to pay Donovan Sharpe for any of the information he is selling. All that has already been covered here at Σ Frame. FREE!

See what I mean? This is the message that authors, pastors, and grifters are sending. They’re saying it’s NOT women’s fault that women behave badly, it’s your fault, men! Unlike (insert any pastor or Red Pill grifter’s name here), you’re just not ‘godly’ or ‘manly’ enough. If you were, then your woman would be an impossible combination of June Cleaver and Jenna Jameson (back when she was still hot).

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Their error is in transferring responsibility for someone’s actions to somebody else — a violation of The Law of Responsibility. Saying that women behave badly because men are poor husbands is like saying men are sinful because God is unloving.

Furthermore, it would be better for men who have respectful, well-behaved wives to say that God blessed them with a good wife, rather than to claim that their wives are good because of anything they have done, which is is also a violation of The Law of Responsibility.

Conclusions

Here’s the truth.  Women DO have free will and moral agency, but they need an incentive to forsake their sin and exercise righteous behaviors. It IS a man’s place and responsibility to guide, lead, and train his woman. But her decision to follow or not is on her. So stop rescuing women from the consequences of their bad behavior and decisions. Only give your time and attention to women who take responsibility for their actions and decisions. Her disobedience and poor behavior might bring shame to a man, but it is not necessarily a reflection on the man’s godliness or masculinity or whatever. Women who say so are making up an excuse to be hypoagentic. Men who say so are bilking you for $$$ or are sending you on a guilt trip.

Because women have free will and moral agency, a woman’s bad behavior — and its consequences — are her fault, and no one else’s.  Treat her accordingly. Assume The Law of Responsibility, exercise The Law of Respect, and teach her The Law of Motivation.

Likewise, if a woman chooses to be good, then that is also her own choice. Treat her accordingly and be thankful for this rare blessing.

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