The past week’s crush of press coverage regarding the Pew Center’s study about Men marrying for greater economic stability in our time actually points to quite a few things, as this forum and others like, have discussed-namely, that there is a growing cohort of Women who are finding themselves alone, and not necessarily by their own “choice”. Simply put, these Women have, in one way or another, essentially priced themselves out of the market, and makes it so they have a very hard time finding anyone because of their “high price”-either the guys who want to “buy” simply can’t afford it, or the guys who can “buy” have other options-usually much, much cheaper-and so there she sits, on the shelf way past her “sell by” date.
Because of evolutionary realities, Women are and have always been the choosier sex. This is understandable-Women only have a limited amount of eggs, a limited amount of time to “make good” on them, and human childbirth is perhaps the most difficult of all the mammals on the planet to pull off successfully. All of this makes sex, even in our time of vastly improved medical science, quite risky for the Female; if she makes the wrong choice of mate and has his kid(s), it can prove disastrous in a whole host of ways. I personally know scores of Men who, upon merely finding out that a Woman has a kid or two, immediately drops her from contention, not only as a date, but even as a pump and dump. They don’t want to be bothered, and in our age of “Maury Baby Mama/Baby Daddy” high drama, I can’t say that I blame them. Of course, there are also scores of Men out there who can and will screw just about everything in sight, and that’s kind of the point of this post today.
Simply put and again, because of the evolutionary truths about the sexes, Men have always, *and are expected to*, “settle(d)”. The average healthy human Male will create, over the course of his lifetime, some *16 gallons of semen*. That’s A LOT of jizz, folks. Therefore, it’s a virtually infinite resource-and you don’t need to be an “Freakonomics” scholar to know, that that which is plentiful, also tends to be cheap. And the reverse is true for that which is in limited supply. Hence the formula: Eggs expensive, sperm cheap.
Moreover, and again from an evolutionary point of view, sex ain’t that big a whup for Men-they does their thing and keeps on getting’ up shortly thereafter. If the gal he was with has a baby, great, and if she doesn’t , great-doesn’t really “hurt” him either way, because he doesn’t make such a huge investment in the same way Women do.
This natural “imbalance” has been approached by varying ways and methods throughout the world’s many cultures down through the ages, and by trial and error, in fits and starts, finally arrived at a somewhat happy medium. That was called, for the most part, marriage, and usually in the “one Man, one Woman” model. Other cultural “interventions” came about to “even out” the inherent imbalances on the sexual score between Men and Women, and while they haven’t been perfect, they have largely worked.
But what we have today are a series of circumstances where all of what we’ve known is starting to unravel. Marriage is fast going the way of the Dodo Bird for all but the uppercrust of American society (and the very small intensely religious communities of the nation); Women now have more “choice” then ever, due to the Four Sirens; and as a result, Men now have their own amount and degree of “choices”, too.
Women cannot help but be choosy, its in their nature; yet they often will advise Men to be more “realistic” in their mating choices. How many of us have heard some gal advising a guy to “stay in his league”? Of course, such sage advice usually follows the shopworn “just be yourself” as well. LOL.
Well, Women have reasons for saying such things, although most don’t quite understand it on a more conscious level. Guys “staying in their lane” clears the field and makes more identifiable the guys these ladies *really* want. Which, for them, ain’t a bad thing; afterall, who can knock anybody for going after what they want, right?
But the problem is, that guys are *expected* to take whatever they can get, and like it. And to be sure, as I’ve said in this venue before, barring severe old age or congenital homeliness, the vast majority of Women will never have any trouble getting some company for the evening. And there are indeed a lot of hard-up guys out there, so there’s indeed a great deal of truth in all of this.
But what’s happening in our time is that, Women as a group, because of their inherent choosey ways and ability to “act” on them due to education and money, are more unhappy than ever. *It actually works against their longterm goals*, because and studies have borne this out, the more choice you have, the harder it is to make a choice to begin with.
So, in a very real way, the very things that “freed” Women are the things that will prove to be their downfall. Meanwhile, because it ain’t that big a deal for most Men in our time, the vast majority of em will happily shag a 5 or less, and if something better comes along, all the better. At the end of the day, at a time when many of things that made most Men valuable is now moot at best, just about any warm body will do for most Men for the night.
Of course, Game really throws a monkey wrench in the works for reasons bloggers Snark and Ferdinand Bardamu have talked about, and I urge those so inclined to look them up. And to be sure, there are voices of discontent, on both the Female and Male sides, but little if anything can be done about all that. Game is here to stay, and more and more guys know it, and the implications it points to. And for those willing to invest just a bit of time to learn some, the world is their…oyster. They can choose between the 5 and the 9.5, and anywhere in between. I’ve seen it happen, and I also know that quiet as its kept, A LOT of Women are starting to get desperate.
Anyway, that’s my Sunday Morning Rant. Holla back.
The Obsidian
