Wondering if she likes you?

Women can be subtle with their signals, but if you know how to read body language, the signs are clear.

This guide breaks down 35 surefire ways to tell if she’s into you.

Let’s dive in.

1. She listens to you with her head sideways

Allan Pease says that tilting one’s head is a sign of attraction.

And research confirms that women do it during flirting.

In some contexts, showing her neck is also a sign of submissiveness, sub-communicating that she accepts your leadership and higher dominance.

2. She asks you questions and fills in the pauses

If she asks you lots of questions she either likes you or she’s making up her mind about you.

To differentiate between the two:

1. Any question she can think 🟰 she likes you
2. Questions about you, your past, your possessions, your exes 🟰 she’s making up her mind

With the former, she’s either smitten, anxious, or ‘wanting more’ from you -including just wanting to listen you talk.

If the latter, she is weighing you up for a role in her life.

3. She is interested in what you say

Don’t flatter yourself: you might not be the most interesting person in the world.

And that’s great news!

Because with her attention she is trying to let you know that she wants something more than your sweet-sounding words.

4. Holds her head on her hand

Imagine a position where she holds her head in one hand -picture below- or both her hands together.

It’s as if she were putting her goods on display.
She says “Here is my face, here are my lips… You may kiss them”.

5. She laughs at your terrible jokes

Research shows that women laugh to get men’s attention.

Laughing during social interactions obeys standard social power dynamics.

Women don’t dignify lower-status men with much attention -or laughter-. If she laughs at your jokes, it means she considers you a worthy dating option.

6. She ‘Preens’ and fixes her hair

What’s “preening”?

It’s prepping herself up and “showing the goods”, such as:

• Straightens up emphasizing her breasts
• Tilts her hips to show her curves
• Hikes up her skirt and shows her legs
• Adjust her clothes
• Fix her hair
• Applying make-up or lipstick (especially if while looking at you)

If you are at a bar or in any place where you can approach her, she preens to get your attention.

7. Acts like a baby

Whenever one gender regresses and plays the baby, it’s a sign of a strong intimate bond.

And sometimes, a willingness to be dominated.
When women act like babies with you, it’s a sign that they want a big daddy to take care of them ;).

Baby behavior includes:

• Giggling
• “Escaping” from you
• Covering her face
• Hide-and-seek games
• Acting out
• Peekaboo games

8. She seeks more (lone) time with you

One of the most powerful -and helpful- signs of attraction is when she’s helping you move the interaction forward.
And the more intimate that time is, the stronger the sign is.

That includes:

• Moves you somewhere secluded
• She stays when her friends leave
• Tells her friends she’s cool with you
• Refuses the obligatory “girlfriends going to the bathroom together thing” to stay with you

At that point, you don’t need to wonder “does she like me”, because she is communicating to you, loud and clear, that she does.
So get moving, because attraction has an expiration date and you must strike while it’s hot.

9. She handles cockblocks for you

You don’t need to worry about cockblockers with more assertive women who like you.
Because they will be doing it for you.

This is basically another form of being alone with you and sends an even stronger message because she is willing to fend off external threats to make it happen.
And that’s a strong statement of attraction.

See an example from 500 Days of Summer:

So don’t be an idiot and don’t even engage the cockblocker: she’s already cast her vote and you’ve been elected :)

10. She protects herself

This might sound counter-intuitive, so hear me out.

While the more confident and assertive women will open their bodies, the more submissive and reserved ones might close them.
This is nothing but another sign of submissiveness.

It’s as if she were saying:

“you’re the dominant one here, go gentle on me”.

Now when you see this sign of attraction, you have gotta be careful: it might be a positive sign, but it can also be she is generally submissive, or also possible, it can also mean that she is attracted, but not yet comfortable…
If she likes you, you can probably get together by pushing it a bit, but to be even safer -and make her feel safer!- talk a bit more. Connect with her a bit more.

Then, as soon as you notice her opening up and smiling more, you can make your move.

11. She moves backward while looking at you

She is re-enacting a dominant-dominated dynamic that usually ends up in bed (prey-predator dynamic).

Go on the assault brother, she wants you in.

12. She is angry… But she’s actually excited

When women are executed but are not getting the cigar, so to speak, they often get cattier.

So when you see:

• Fake angry, but can’t hold smiling when you tease them
• Angry for no apparent reason

Then it can easily be because they like you.
Another strong indicator of sexual chemistry is when you sexually tease them or jokingly objectify them, and they get fake angry. But they’re actually glad you’re doing it.

Case in point:

Sometimes, there can be a fine line between anger, excitement, aggression, and sex. If you want to enjoy some speedy seduction and steamy sex, you have to learn how to walk that tightrope.

13. She draws attention to your nether region

I remember many years ago, sitting on the couch at my place with a Kazakh girl (I seem to remember) beside me.

She was nervous and exhibited closed body language. So I thought to take it easy and slow.

Then she crunched over, analyzing and commenting on how great my belt buckle was.

That’s when I realized I was taking it too easy :).

She doesn’t care about your jeans, belt, or buckle my friend… She cares about unbuckling.
Or, well, lemme fix that: hopefully you have nice clothes and she also likes your belt. And what’s lying beneath :)

In any other similar situation in which a girl is drawing attention to your nether region, it’s a glaring sign that she likes you (sexually) and you gotta get moving.

14. She draws attention to her erogenous zones

As we mentioned earlier, while more reserved women close down, more assertive and sexually confident women open up instead.
And that can include pointing to the erogenous zones of her body.

They might touch her uncovered bellies complain about the cold, fix their decollete… Or let a hand hang right between her legs.
Catch the drift…?

15. She shows her neck

Do you like vampires?

Most women do.

The act of biting on her neck is more than just a sexual hint: it’s sexually arousing.

Vanessa van Edwards says that showing the neck releases pheromones. We’re not too convinced of the pheromones prat, but showing the neck is a value cue for interest because it displays submissiveness.

Similar messages are:

• Placing a hand on her neck
• Running her fingers on her neck

16. She touches you

If while talking she looks at opportunities to touch you, then you have another huge indicator of interest.
For example:

• Laughs and reaches for your arm with her hand
• Places her hand on you to emphasize a point
• Touches your arm (and maybe asks if you’ve been working out :)

The APA Handbook of Nonverbal Communication says that touching the knee is a strong indicator of her interest.

Here is a good example:

Another powerful sign of attraction within a group is when a girl gets up to go to the bathroom or get another drink, and she touches you briefly.
That’s the equivalent of saying “I’m going to come back to you”.

17. She makes you horny: sexual tease

Some women, the master seductresses among them, are masters of sexual tease.
The sexual tease is basically telling him:

I might be ready for it… Will you be man enough to come take it?

That’s the kind of sexual provocation the top coquettes go for.
It’s like waving the red flag in front of the bull.

When you find yourself horny in a way that you’d like to f*ck her hard, almost as if to deliver punishment, then you know you’re dealing with a master coquette.

Don’t go thinking it will always be as obvious as Sharon Stone crossing her legs. I mean, it might be, but more frequently it will be something like this:

• Raising her eyebrows
• Slightly wetting her lips
• Touching the side of your leg, below your belt
• Flashing one eyebrow only

Notice the slight tease of this win, pure sexual tease:

18. She jokes a lot with you

Similar to the sexual tease, but with less sex.
As much as guys flirt with women they like, so women flirt with men they like.

19. She is nervous

You might think that men are the only nervous ones asking “does she like me”.

But women equally obsess over “does he like me”.

And if you spot signs of nervousness, chances are that she likes you. A lot…

You will see this one, especially from younger women, inexperienced women, and women who think you’re out of their league.

If that’s the case, you have to put her at ease, and let her feel that yes, she has a shot with you because you like her too.

And, ideally, quickly move forward.

Speaking of nervousness, the APA Handbook of Psychology also includes coyness as a signal of interest.

20. She asks you if you have a girlfriend

Oh boy, this is a big sign of attraction.
Any girl who asks about your relationship status is interested in changing that relationship status.

Never answer this question with a joke such as “nah, girls don’t want me”. Women get worried at that one instead of laughing and you will break the mood.

Instead, avoid answering too directly and hinting that you might be free. Especially tonight, if she wants to come back to you just for a drink.. ;).

21. She tells you of her relationship woes

Careful here, because:

• You’re either in the friend zone
• She wants YOU to be her bofyriend

But if you’re a cool friend, you may still have a chance. Sexual chemistry will increase when she complains -and maybe cries- about her current relationship.

That’s how some women end up having sex with friends and sometimes even gay friends.

Basically, 8/10 a woman complaining about her boyfriend is really bad news… For her boyfriend. And a strong sign of attraction for you.

The biggest sign is, of course, when she sends you a message out of the blue saying her relationship is going very badly. That’s like saying “I need rebound sex”.

22. She asks you if you know any single guy

Women don’t usually ask men to make intros.

If she asking you for a friend of yours she is actually asking about you.

23. She tells you of her ideal guy… Who sounds a lot like you

If she tells you about her ideal and said ideal guy sounds a lot like you, then you don’t need to ask yourself “does she like me”.
She is basically telling you.

24. She comments on your pictures and statuses

Usually, it’s men who do this -and do it all wrong of course-. And when it’s women who do it to you, it’s a big sign she is interested in you.

25. She hints you two should spend time together

People don’t ask to spend time with people they don’t like.

So any time a woman hints at spending time together, especially the two of you of them alone, that’s a strong sign of attraction.
It can be a coffee, lunch, or a request for help because “you’re so knowledgeable” about something.
They’re all signs that she is helping you move the interaction forward.

An example from the movie The Terminal here (and raise your hand if you’d gladly take that opportunity with Catherine Zeta-Jones):

26. She gets physically close

Says The Handbook of Relationship Initiations:

Research on nonverbal communication shows that intimacy and liking are conveyed through forward body lean, smiling, eye contact, close proximity, direct body orientation, and frequent gesturing, among other signals (see Burgoon, 1985).

Most signals are about her getting closer and showing comfort.

Same if she is looking for opportunities to get close to you, hug you, and touch you.

Especially telling are all situations where sexually erogenous areas come in direct contact. Pressing her breasts against you, or crotch her against your leg for example. All signs she’s excited by you.

27. She asks your friends about you

People don’t ask about people they don’t like.

If a girl is asking your friends about you, she likes you.

Sometimes, she will try to hide her feelings though because she’s actually happy to let you wonder “does he like me”.
And she will try to gather intel about you “under the radar”:

28. She’s available for you

If she’s always available to talk, hang out, or text, there is little wondering “does she like me”, because it’s clear that she does.

29. She tells you you look good

I cannot count the number of men I’d like to slap in the head when they ask me if a girl is into them and they tell me that the girl is complimenting their looks.

Heck! She is telling you she likes you, what else does the poor girl have to do?
Of course, she might play the “we’re still friends” cards if you’re really friends, but she still likes you. So keep going.

This is what a girl was telling a guy who was asking me for advice:

Her: You’re such a handsome guy

Her: (talking about a girl he had started seeing) You can do better than her

Her: (talking about her interest in engaging her vagina a bit more) Ah, I have spiderwebs down here

Her: I like a guy who slams me against the wall

And he asked me what he should do with her…
Here is a tip: if she is telling you what she likes, maybe you should try doing that.

30. She lets you know she is single

Women who tell you they are single do it for two reasons:

1. They feel bad about it and need to get it off their chest
2. They want you to change their relationship status (and get their clothes off their chest)

More often than not it’s the second.

31. She texts you a lot

She texts you a lot and often writes first.

This is a big sign of attraction, and you should move the conversation ASAP from texting to in-person.

And from in-person to your place.

32. She sends you long texts

The length of texts is an indicator of investment which, in turn, is an indicator of interest.

And a woman who is investing in you is doing so hoping you do the same. If you like her, don’t stand there wondering “does she like me”, invest back in her and escalate investment together towards the bed -and maybe a relationship-.

33. She sends you her pictures

She sends you hot pictures of herself -or pictures she deems as hot anyway-.

Cheap move. But still a sign that she likes you

It’s possible that she asks you what you think of said pictures. Even sneakier -and funnier- if she sends you made-up pictures and says “just woke up”.

If you want to get together with her, don’t fawn at her picture but don’t ignore them either (like I’ve done in the picture above).

Show appreciation or, alternatively, you can go the sexual way and tell her “you don’t know what I’d do to you now”. The risk though is that she will feel like she “has you” and that you have nothing better to do than sexting. And sexting is not a high-value man’s pastime.

34. She drunk-text you

There is a saying in Latin:

In vino veritas

Meaning “in wine lies the truth”. And if she’s inebriated the truth is this: she thinks about you.
Any drunk or high texting, and possibly even fake excuses of drunk-dialing, are all major signs that she likes you.

35. She looks down, then up

Looking at you and then down is another sign of submission.

Which, in turn, is often a sign of attraction -but not always, don’t confuse fear with attraction!-.

Angelina Jolie does it often when she mixes together the coyness and the vixen:

Does she like me? More Cues She does

More verbal and nonverbal cues that signal attraction:

• Looking over the raised shoulder
• Talks to her friends but looks over at you
• Speaks to her phone loudly when you’re near (a nervous reaction as she tries to get your attention)
• Talk to her phone while she’s looking at you
• Looks at you sideways
• Tags her jewelry while looking at your or speaking to you (especially the necklace)
• Dangle her shoes, going in and out with her feet (mimicking another in and out)
• Goes up and down with her hand on the glass or the stem of the glass (seen this twice, always ended up well)

Look at a similar example here, fondling with a pen:

Great and realistic scene. Also, notice how she walks backward and “protects” herself. Read more in “dominance and seduction” and “leadership and seduction“.

• Invades your personal space (she wants to get physically closer)
• Shows the inner side of her wrists or arms
• Caresses herself
• Feet pointing towards you
• Pupils dilate
• Looks up to you
• Mirrors your body language
• Strikes pose (wants to be admired and to increase her value in your eyes)
• Shows off her goodies (straightens up, shows her leg or her breast)
• Asks you if you have a condom (she’s agreed to sex, just want to have it safe)

Theory of Female Signaling

Assertive women make it easier for you.

Some other women though -including the ones who read women’s dating literature either signal too subtly, or “play disinterest” to make him chase -an often bad idea by the way-.

The goal of subtle signals is to gain power.
It frames the situation like it was him who wanted her, and not the other way around.

And, as with any covert power moves, subtle signals allow her to deny any intent.

Elicit Real Signs of Attraction

Finally, instead of wondering “does she like me” and reading body language and hints like a detective, try to elicit those signs.

Help her like you!

Display high value, dress well, show social confidence and status… And more and more women will want to be with you.

We have one full course that helps good men gain more women’s attraction.

Summary

Reading the signs of attraction requires a good knowledge of body language and emotional intelligence.

Don’t forget though that the biggest priority is making yourself into a man who elicits signs of attraction.
Such as becoming a high-value, attractive man.

Then, you can start enjoying more and more signs of attractions coming your way. This post helps you read and internalize all the signs of attraction so that you will never have to wonder again “does she like me”.