BY T.L.
There has been a lot of discussion of Kay Hymowitz’s article about “Manning Up” Here is the response that needs to be made:
You don’t get it Kay. We ARE manning up…that’s why we are dumping YOU.
The feminists of America have descended into this horrible web of deceit and self-destruction, and men finally are saying… enough. We are doing the best, most mature, and most appropriate thing to do in this case, the right thing thing. We are walking away.
You say “what about society, what about children?” We ARE doing the best thing for society. We ARE doing the best thing for children. Women as a group have become a giant Charlie Sheen…crazy, drug-addled, abusive, paranoid, destructive of themselves and their loved ones, and above all, utterly, utterly in denial of their vile behavior. Women are on a relentless tear, not only destroying their own happiness but dragging all around them down as well. And we men, after 40 years of being the quiet, enabling co-dependent spouse, after cleaning up and justifying and covering up your abuse, putting on face makeup to hide the emotional bruises you give us and hiding the emotional scars you give our children — finally having been pushed to the point where we see very clearly that this this process is headed towards real honest-to-god tragedy, we are doing what anybody in these situations learn to do. What any good counselor or physiatrist would tell recommend. We are walking away from you, and letting you crash.
We aren’t being immature and we aren’t scared of strong women, Kay. Today’s men are just fine…more sober, more sane, more responsible than we have been in years, facing and recognizing the truth: that women simply cannot be trusted any longer to care for or protect a healthy society…that’s it’s up to us men, for the good of our sons AND our daughters, to start pulling back and letting you have the sole burden for your own neuroses.
And just as an aside, let me point out that you and other women like you aren’t “strong women”, unless you call being batshit crazy “strong”.
So to all you men…walk away, walk away. Women have twisted marriage and gender relations into an extraordinary web of lies. They are all too willing to drag all us, men, families, and children too, down into that. It is time to say no more.
Walk away, men, preserve yourselves, not just because it’s the right thing to do personally, and it is, but because it’s the right thing to do for society.
And Kay, after you and your fellow nutcase feminists have finished your descent into narcissism, neuroses, man-hate, family-hate, and self-hate, after you’ve finally burned into ashes that last of your life on the pyre of feminist deceit, we can only hope, that the shock of seeing yourself abandoned and loveless might cause you to look in the mirror and recognizing how ugly you have become.
Maybe you will start to put yourself back together again and maybe then we’ll come back in force. Or more likely, you’ll simply continue as you are, meaner and loopier than ever, and it will be your daughters — those girls who will judge you a thousand times more harshly than men ever could, as daughters have judging their mothers for thousands of years — it will be your daughters who will be the ultimate “walk aways”, who will reject the feminist viral infection of their mothers, who will stop attending man-hate classes at the universities, who will slowly and painfully attempt the job of rebuilding that joyous life of marriage and family which their great-grandmothers sacrificed so much to build, and which your generation trampled. It will be your daughters who will curse your name, as they deal with the loneliness of broken homes and the financial poverty which is an inevitable result of marriage-averse men.
Maybe in the future we will all live in flying cars and zip between skyscrapers full of techno-wonders. Not likely. More likely we’ll live in a nation like Brazil, with a few ultra-rich living behind walls to protect them from the masses of the slums. And what your daughters will learn, as so many thousands of years of women have known, is that when money is scarce and poverty threatens, a good husband and his second income is the one sure-fire way to lessen the odds she and her children will live in squalor. And so many of those daughters, living in the marriage-averse society which you are bequeathing them, will not be married, will not have your high-end jobs (which long since disappeared), will not have any money bequeathed from you (since you will have long since squandered it on trips to Italy and Thailand to “find your bliss”).
Your daughters may live to see their children, your granddaughters, living in squalor, may live to feel that agonizing despair that parents feel when they cannot provide for their children. And feeling that agonizing despair, those future women will think back and they will damn you.
That is your most likely destiny Kay. Time for you to face it.
For us men, we hope to avert that future, at least partially. So we choose to walk away NOW, as early and fast as possible. We want that necessary pain to start early, to get it over with faster, so those future generations of women see more clearly what you have done and will reject you faster, so that our future generation of sons will see again, that they have a choice bequeathed to them by fathers who had the self-respect to say “no!”.
The fastest way to repair marriage is not to repair marriage. The fastest way is to let it crash and burn, let you finish your job of destroying it, and let you see the consequences that you have so diligently refused to acknowledge for all these years. This is shock therapy. It’s painful. That’s the point.
Now as you read this Kay, I don’t doubt that you are carefully constructing all your refutations of these points. But, none of those refutations matter, because men have stopped debating. You will win any debate, as you always win debates, by the fact of your sheer refusal to deal in any sense of reality whatsoever. Living in an alternate Feminist universe of your own creation, you will always win your alternate-universe-crazy debates. It’s a waste of our time and we know it. We choose instead to simply walk away, the ultimate argument throughout history, and (apparently) the only thing that will get through your thick skull.
Having met that non-debate, I’m sure your next step will be (*yawn) the usual name-calling (“loser, misogynist, probably still living in your mom’s basement, probably haven’t gotten laid in years or divorced and bitter”). The point is Kay, none of the usual names apply. Most men are not those things. Most of us are just normal guys…mature, healthy, married, boys, men, dads… guys who take care of their families and neighborhoods. That’s what you need to get Kay. You and other feminists have finally crossed the line, and even we men who are content, we men who are not (knock on wood) divorced, are taking notice. When we teach our sons about marriage, we’ll be teaching them to avoid you and your kind. When we teach our daughters about life, we’ll try our damnedest to steer them away from women like you.
Kay, why don’t you write about all *this*. This is the reality of the other 50% of the population. What a book you could write about it.
