The “better-than-you” crew and the women who love (using) them
by Ken Knight
Having mentioned my buddy “Davis” in a recent essay here on The Spearhead I thought I’d better explain the satirist idea of “The Better Davis Society” of which I named for an associate of mine who despite having been through two divorces in the past 10 years and having lost 2/3 of his net worth and two homes in the process continues to this day to see himself as “better” than single, childless men who have NOT fallen into the traps he so willingly sprung upon himself in less than a decade’s time. Davis likes to refer to himself as a “p*ssy getting motherf*#ker” (a la Match.com and his “war hero” profile) who incessantly reminds his single buddies about his two children and the fact his “DNA will go on” etc. etc. etc. solely because he reproduced with a woman (who is now another man’s wife).
Marriage 2.0 was lost on Davis because he bought and paid into the “expectation” of wife, kids, big house with picket fence, hook-line-and-sucker…and this is an example of a dynamic amongst men who are single (and particularly men who have no children)….their male peers may often prove their membership in the “Better Davis Society” by simply refusing to see outside the “shop window” where they currently reside and view men who have NOT been married or have not reproduced as “inferior” to them! Yes sports-fans, it is the “betrayal of the social order” thing again, and it is in full swing out there in La-La-Land where white knighting men “shame” their no-nuptials brethren with subtle taunts such as “Hey man, you’re thirty-five now…might want to get to reproducing!” or “You like women don’t ya?” and the “You can’t live all by yaself, you just need to find yaself a good woman and settle down!” (ad nauseum). In short, Davis is “better” than his single and childless associates because he has done what is “expected” of him even though in doing so he lost nearly everything he had in two back-to-back divorces and despite being a $150,000-a-year man, Davis had to get a loan from Mommy and Daddy to complete his court ordered wealth-redistribution to wifey #2.
Amazing dichotomy…and I am sad to say this mental defection is not by any means confined to just one suburbanite named Davis (name changed to protect the guilty~haha).
Unless you married straight out of high school and had no bachelor years to speak of, you may remember seeing buddies get engaged/married and subsequently drop you as a friend because well…you just weren’t “in” like he was since you were still swinging- single (and perhaps didn’t have a girlfriend his fiancée/wife got along with). The single buddy of a married man gets the pink-slip as soon as cupcake demands it: “Your pal Jimmy is single and weird, I don’t want him coming over anymore!” or the oft-used female tirade: “Your buddy Dean must be gay since he’s forty and never been married!”
*Note to the paladins of political-correctness: many married women flagrantly point the “fag” stick at men who aren’t married (conservative and liberal!)*
Even the “happily” married men will discriminate against their single brothers on a whim (no invite to their block party for July 4th because well, you’re not married!) and these cats are the ones who will tell you that you “just need to find a good woman to marry!” and incessantly point out their life achievements in their marriage from the kids’ soccer game scores, honor-roll accolades, junior proms, as well as their wife’s weight loss and the fact they have “forgiven” one another for a lot over the years (can you say “cuckolding”?) how marriage is a work of art to be sculpted over the years, blah-blah-blah…then they’ll remind you that you should have what they have and that you’re f*cked up if you refuse such a life (the reason single men are not welcome in Churches).
Yes, Davis goes to Church because he pathologically operates under what is “expected” and despite not adhering to the dictums of Christianity in his personal life (sorry bro, but the Jesus of the Bible would not approve of you getting your lance waxed by a hooker at the Airport) he goes to Church anyway!
As for the wifey of a man in the “Better Davis Society” of holier-than-thou marsupials, she’s got him by the balls for the most part and will vigorously defend her turf from any and all freedom-loving single men who might happen to drive by their picket fence in a shiny new sports car or on a chopped-out Harley. Cupcake cannot have hubby unduly influenced by “free men” out there, least of all former pals of his who might convince him that he should not be married at all or (clutch the pearls) give him sage advice that may be used in his favor during the future divorce proceedings! Catch is, freedom does exist from the current Marriage 2.0 pitfall and it lies in what more and more men are finding to be little more than a pretty lie wrapped in wedding-cake white, and the ability to say NO to it now and when they’re forty, fifty, sixty: MGTOW.
The Better Davis Society or “BDM” is my new moniker for these married and later divorced guys who continue to view themselves as “better” than single/childless men simply because they went through the hell of marriage (often more than once!) and divorce without reflection upon their colossal poor choice in women as they carried out what was “expected” of them by society at large. Oh there are legions of women who just “love” men in the Better Davis Society because they’ll fall into the same trap time and time again (it is “expected” remember?) and the cycle will continue though it is decreasing in its evolution. Put another way, it’s tantamount to an indentured servant pointing at a man who is walking off the plantation and feeling “better” because he (the indentured servant) has a “master” to tell him what to do and makes decisions for him and the free man does not. The Davis I know likes to tout himself as a “p*ssy getting motherf#*ker” (i.e. being a serial-husband) and I laughed last time he said it, replying to his braggadocio with “Sure, it’s paid dividends for you hasn’t it bro?”
The Better Davis Society (BDM) deserves to become a new term for an entire legion of our brothers out there who lovingly wear blinders over their eyes and wear shackles of compliance for a society that is much like the Titanic on its maiden (and final) course and interestingly enough, doesn’t give a squirt of piss about them!
