I wrote 2 posts to ask trp. Both were auto deleted because this name is new. I'm glad they were now. They were both whiny and weak and wanted help "winning" my wife back by working on my game. I distanced myself from her emotionally and sexually a long time ago. I got tired of her all her BS and just couldn't force myself to sleep with her anymore. I'm the one that started talking about divorce. Then we had a big fight and everything finally came to a head, the divorce was going to happen. And I got scared, told her I was sorry for all of it and would do anything she wanted to make things better. Instantly the power dynamic shifted. She started treating me like a worm that she was tolerating. I started desperately looking for ways to regain my mojo so she would remember how awesome I am and stay. All the while she was subtly insulting me, sleeping in a different room. Making posts about how awesome she is for taking control of her life on facebook and getting yougogirl/girlpower replies from her coterie of internet hags. Well, I'm not going out like a punk. I'm taking control of this divorce, not her. I just unfriended her so I don't get nauseated every time I check facebook. I also just took my ring off. Because the moment we agreed it was over it was over. Everything else is just formality. I read today about recovering betas who were being alpha when they met their wife and then settled back into beta and earned their contempt. Well, that stings more than a little. I see now that self improvement and being a man is something that you always have to work on and that you can rest on your laurels. Well, I guess I should thank her. I want a difficult freedom more than I want a comfortable matrix.