OP: http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/14nkrr/wife_had_been_living_with_parents_for_over_a/

So the plan was a private investigator would take pics of the house and her parents house to prove she was not living there. That was exactly what we got. My lawyer wanted to get me to see my son and get me in the house. Outside the courtroom me mentioned it to my wife's lawyer. By the way, wife plus her dad plus the woman they give to women who are victims plus her public defender were there. I could not believe she didn't have a real lawyer. Anyway, after he told the PD she wasn't living there they said that was not true, then my lawyer said I have pics of her car at her parents house and she hasn't been there for weeks. At this point her dad started to blow up approaching my lawyer and saying why does that matter! Was about to say more but the PD stopped him. The PD talked to them again and said she needed more time.

So in court my parents are there, plus the people on my wife's side. When the house is mentioned my wife is asked if she slept there, she said uhh yeah last night with my aunt (lie). I told my lawyer in a whisper ask how many times in the last three weeks and the PD says we aren't answering that. I'm thinking sound good... then the judge just goes well this sounds like a maternity issue which is not for this court, he isn't allowed there and that's how it will stay for now. I was like man, well this sucks. We had emails of her saying she would never move back from weeks ago, but my lawyer purposely held them back.

As for the 14 month old baby, wife allowed supervised visits by her parents and siblings or aunt and uncle. My lawyer was like um no he will have supervised visits, but with HIS family and at THEIR house. The judge agreed but then my wife started laying into my parents saying one time when they were watching him, he was reacting to a vaccine by screaming and they didn't bother to call us... we were on a date at the time. Then she challenged my parents house not being baby proofed, and that we needed a suitable car seat. My lawyer was like of course we will do this. Then she says can I not have my phone while I see him because she found inappropriate pics on it (basically a 30yr old female underwear model), at this point the judge (female) is like I'm not gonna tell him he can't take pics of his own son! I think this is where the judge started to see some ridiculousness. Wife goes on to say they have a print out from 2008... 4 years ago... saying my license was not valid. Judge asks if it is and I say yes because it is.

Now timing of visits, I told my lawyer she works on weekends, but to block me she says she hasn't worked in weeks. Just blatant lies. Judge orders every other weekend on Sat and Sun daytime. So 14 hrs one weekend, none the next. Average of 7 hrs a week vs 154 for her. Sound fair? Pickup they wanted at their house, my lawyer was like why not at (marital house), it IS where you live isn't it? It was gold, they had to say yes and it is a huge inconvenience for them... well every two weeks anyway.

Christmas came up she agreed to let me have him for two hrs. Then the judge says pick one Christmas or Christmas Eve they picked Christmas, and I'm thinking wow I get him for Christmas Eve! I do but only 10-6. Still enough to see the side that gets together then. She will get to go to her night eve celebrations and have him all of Christmas. I will miss my sons second Christmas and have tears welling up just writing this sentence.

After court the first thing the PD says to my lawyer is I'll call you about the house. Not sure what to make of it, I know my wife does not actually want to live there, and my lawyer has mountains of proof he is just saving for next time. She will prob just say she wants to remove whatever she wants or offer a trade for full custody. Both unacceptable.

Wife is loving the power trip, showed up in ratty clothes, I was in a suit. She smiled at my parents thinking she won when she left. But I am staying positive this was a battle not the war situation. She contradicted her sworn allegations with her sworn testimony, I mean hard facts here. She will be burned for it next time, when we really need it.

Until then I need to be very careful, now that we know they will lie under oath I would not put anything past them. They could do something to my son and say I did it. My parents will snap a couple of photos for safety. I don't think I have a choice, it is too risky.

Wife is obsessed with our son, she didn't work for a whole year after having him and doesn't like him out of her sight for a second. She is willing to do anything to get him 100% of the time.

TL;DR Breaking a marriage is rough.

Edit: Small details