I have been in a LTR for a couple of years now, and I'm considering breaking up with her, for several reasons. Basically, I want to work on myself for a bit and I think she wants more in a relationship than what I can give her. However, she is very attached to me, and suffers from quite severe anxiety, self confidence issues and mild depression. Sometimes I think that she thinks I am the best thing going for her in her life. So if I were to break up with her, I'm worried about her mental state, and if it would undo all the gains she's been making in the past year or so. I suppose my question can be put into 2 parts.

  1. Is there any way for me to break up with her amicably/get her to break up with me?

  2. If not, how do you deal with the guilt? Preferably answers beyond "just break up with her and let her suffer, don't be beta", she's a good girl.

Thanks