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And women wonder why they think that men are solely sexual beings...

celticd208

October 16, 2012

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Title	And women wonder why they think that men are solely sexual beings...
Author	celticd208
Upvotes	0
Comments	10
Date	October 16, 2012 1:05 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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Thanks Sigil,

Now I see what you mean.

There is perceived to be a moral difference, however, between the two. Men are only interested in sex, rather than love, it is said. I've never understood quite what that means, but let's assume it means a quick fling or a one night stand rather than an ongoing monogamous relationship or marriage. Women, on the other hand, are more interested in love, and love implies commitment to a long term relationship, including marriage.

The man's preference for sex over love is thought to be both a natural propensity in men and morally degenerate. Likewise, nature commands women to pre-occupy themselves with love and marriage. In case nature fails to do her work, however, women are subject to the pressure of social shaming if they fail to conform. Why nature would fail is never explained.

Feminism has tended to condemn male sexuality as degenerative and exploitative. Women, by contrast, it has both extolled as paragons of sexual virtue and encouraged to rediscover and explore repressed female sexuality, the better to enjoy this perfectly natural behaviour.

The result is a culture which preserves the traditional condemnation of sex as something sinful only so far as it is expressed by heterosexual men, but which at the same time bestows upon women the freedom to enjoy sex to the full.

In such a culture the advice from Cosmo on "how to keep" a man is likely to be seen entirely without the implication of moral censure that attaches to advice to men on "how to pick up women". This is because keeping men is what tradition dictates women should be doing.

Even advice on "how to catch" and "how to keep him keen" and to appeal sexually is capable of being construed within the traditional female sex role of attracting a mate for love, marriage and reproduction, the better to constrain the man's degenerate lust and propensity to stray.

On the other hand, Cosmo can happily appeal to modern feminist values in claiming to liberate women to enjoy their bodies to the full.

We find, then, in Cosmo a document of these twin aspects of the culture. On the one hand it exploits traditional values to condemn male sexuality as predatory, exploitative, and morally reprehensible. At the same time it appeals to feminist calls for equality to confer upon women the right to pursue sexual pleasure without shame.

Best Wishes, Unexpected

EDIT: Fixed stuff and removed quote