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In humour truth?

jacKofKats

May 3, 2012

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Title	In humour truth?
Author	jacKofKats
Upvotes	2
Comments	1
Date	May 3, 2012 12:04 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/t4yre/in_humour_truth/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/in-humour-truth.1022606 https://theredarchive.com/post/1022606

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

A partial truth.

The problem with Nice Guys or their predecessors the Sensitive New Age Guys is that they are perceived as weak and submissive. Society does not have high regard for submissive men - especially most women.

So some guys overcompensate and try to be macho jerks. That can yield short term results but tends to fail in the long term - especially in relationships.

I have found the solution is to keep the opposing forces in balance - assertive but kind, dominant but caring. Especially in relationships with women, but it helps in the workplace too. (Many) women need a certain assertive male energy and strength to be turned on sexually and romantically, but also need the caring aspect, because that gives them an emotional hook for bonding and a degree of control in the relationship. In the workplace leadership is respected and rewarded, but a leader who gives a damn about the people who work for him is more respected than one who doesn't.