So this is my second "serious" relationship. I have good game to get laid - usually have no problem getting women attracted and into bed.

I'm surprised because I have a decent starting SMV but in all three of my relationships I end up being beta in a bad way. And it's not due to love but more due to convenience/ease/escape from stepping up in life. I have respect for people but I've also realized that EVERTYHING in life is a paradox. Salesman for example need to push and pull at the same time - and the same is true for an LTR. I see now that there has to be some sort of control/frame manipulation for the benefit of both parties.

I'm starting to see that if they aren't (decent) family or friends and you're in an LTR it's just a black-hole. They don't operate by language/logic standards. I should know this by now.

"Pours you a drink with one hand, and judges you with the other if you take it"

The Current Problem:

- LTR and I haven't been good for a couple months, on an off, back and forward, arguing all the time and make-up sex all the time. I basically sense she's already nexted me and is just looking for me to give her a reason to say the words OR wants to force me to breakup

- She tests me on stuff I've explained I won't deal with but I respond by trying to reason with her or reacting - my frame is totally broken. Every time we have fought if she ends up giving even a little she never fulfills it and is doing what nature intended by testing my frame and I keep caving ("You said you were going to improve" etc.)

- The one thing I have going for me I started Alpha in the beginning of the relationship, I also put my foot down many times when we did argue about little thing earlier on in the R and she always came back. I also have my real life shit down, and she is a disaster. Also she gets fucked really well, like passes out often after it.

- She has emotional problems, problems with friends, school, family. I realized I ultimately do not want to be with this person she makes my life super toxic. But, despite all that she is a cute girl and a human being and will now treat her with all this in mind and do my own thing. Most importantly: She is the best lay I've had physically.

Where we are currently at:

  • The last conversation/text we had was about "talking" about us
  • She mentioned how she wants to meet in person on her schedule. I realized I've been played for months now.
  • I respond: "If you have something to say do it now"
  • She gets angry
  • I ghost because frankly blew my limit and didn't give her the satisfaction of showing it, I'm done.

Now I'm probably a beggar at this point because she doesn't see me as Alpha anymore (if anything hardcore Beta) - and now more than ever (and always - lesson learned) I'm going to be constantly improving my SMV and not putting that ahead of anyone's needs. I kind of have an answer to my own question in that my ghost might not be effective anyway because A) I'm still thinking about her response and B) She doesn't feel the pull anymore

My question is: Is it at all possible to transition this into a plate. Besides just raw SMV improvement is there any way to convert or should I just drop it and if she ever messages me take it from there.

*I see this as a possibility because always have forms of make-up sex (although she may not be attracted anymore)