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Topic from a domestic violence court advocate intern (x-post from AMA)

Celda

May 6, 2011

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Title	Topic from a domestic violence court advocate intern (x-post from AMA)
Author	Celda
Upvotes	4
Comments	1
Date	May 6, 2011 3:43 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/h5csn/topic_from_a_domestic_violence_court_advocate/
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[–]thetrollking -1 points0 points1 point 15 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]ladymidnight89 [S] -3 points-2 points-1 points 1 day ago

I can't say very much b/c I'm bound by confidentiality, but there was one client I worked with who really struck me. It was a female police officer who was only there filing for an order of protection b/c her coworkers said she should. She didn't think she belonged there b/c "it wasn't physical, he just yelled at her." This shocked me.

At first, I thought I might have to shorten my explanations b/c of her profession. She, like many, bought into the stereotype that domestic violence is only physical. It's not. It is all kinds of manipulation, based on ones' belief that they are entitled to power and control in the relationship.

I showed this particular client the DV Power and Control wheel, which visually breaks down all the components of domestic violence. She started sobbing when she read it. She said, "I had no idea." Being in a position where she might point out our agencies DV services, I would have thought she might know more about DV.

So, yelling at someone is domestic violence? I can see how it could be but we need context. If you walk in on your wife sucking your best friends dick and you scream at her...are you now a abuser?