Ask MensRights: your opinion of tomboys/metrosexuals?

j0phus · 2010-08-01T11:58:09+00:00

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kloo2yoo · 2010-08-01T13:21:43+00:00

When I'm looking at porn, I like feminine looking women. I do not accept, and will not entertain, the possibility of romantic involvement with anyone.

2010-08-01T14:07:16+00:00

It makes no difference to me. I mean, there are a lot of qualities that would be considered "non-feminine" that I am very attracted to in women(i.e. women who play video games, who are educated/inquiring/critical thinkers, who are independent/self-reliant/professional, who are physically active, strong in character, who are open-minded or into nerdy subjects/technology, etc) but I also do respect, and appreciate, many other qualities that would be considered "feminine" as well. Both have their own charm and compromises will typically have to be made no matter what so, in the end, it really comes down to other factors for me(physical attraction, compatibility, her altruism/compassion, life goals/expectations, etc).

However, I do find that the more traditional women(or at least traditional when it suits/benefits them) also do have a very different set of expectations/entitlement from men, and masculinity, that is not compatible with my own personality. Not much I can really do about that though.

LGBTerrific · 2010-08-01T15:29:56+00:00

I'm usually repelled by women who try to fit themselves into the traditional female role.

Yes, I'd be repelled by anyone who's trying to fit themselves into being someone they're not or who hold a view of rigid gender roles.

I'd much rather be with someone who's comfortable with themself as a person, no matter how feminine or masculine, traditional or otherwise, they are; and who chooses to do what they want instead of doing things just because of their gender.

2010-08-01T12:12:36+00:00

I have found that for the most part (but not always), people who subscribe to strict gender roles have not truly evaluated their identity. They have an unfounded assumption (instilled by the media) that being the "perfect female/male" archetype will make them happiest, when it's much more likely that it will conflict with their needs/desires (because everyone is different, we can't all fit into a mold). If they construct a truly personal identity they may find it fits them much better. The problem is most people like this are afraid that they will be considered "strange" or "gay" or "butch" or "tomboy" or "metro", so they don't rock the boat so they won't be ostracized. This is a shame because establishing your identity based on what aspects are valuable to you and increase your general happiness is very important for stability in life. How can you ask anything of others if you don't know what you really want for yourself, deep down?

Title	Ask MensRights: your opinion of tomboys/metrosexuals?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	August 1, 2010 9:35 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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