So, I have a bit of a novel conundrum, at least I think anyway, after reading a lot of the requisite material - how to reestablish frame/alpha positioning with a woman who I met while still beta, but is still around as a close friend (after 3 years).

Now, disclaimer - I am still making TRP conversion, translating thought to action. I realize I even still have some BP tendencies, especially in this particular case, i.e., oneitis. I am in my 30's, 6 figure tech, decently fit/decent looking and rapidly improving. She is slightly older and makes good money as well - I recently surpassed her in a big way though, and she's aware of this - and my oneitis is based on a few things...one being that she says she's a virgin and this is likely true; I am very close with her best friend and others who would know and say if it were otherwise. She's a workaholic at the top of the heap in a field working with children for the most part rather than adults, and has by her own admission been on 2 separate dates ever. I am close enough to the situation to know I'm her only male friend and nothing unknown to me is happening. She is also legitimately religious conservative; those things factored with her personality have caused her to pass every test I've thrown at her thus far with flying colors in a way no one ever has present or past (oneitis again, I know). Honestly the bigger romantic risk is that she's a closet lesbian, though I have at times noticed IOI's. If anything I think she has been "checking" them due to my unavailability.

So what's the issue, shut the hell up and escalate right? Well, I only recently became available, having exited a LTR that irreparably broken in part due to my BP tendencies and the fact she wasn't alpha-worthy to begin with. I am friends with the woman in question as stated and have established BP tendencies with her, too. I know I need to break these or end up in the same boat as before. The other issue is that she's not plate material, some of the reasons for which should already be clear, but also because there would be devastating social ramifications to this for me...in short, I need work toward an LTR, which would be the goal anyway, or stay friends only. I am comfortable and have been successful plating/FWB situations before so this is not indications of a larger problem needing to be addressed.

So really, I'm looking for advice on how to change the dynamic, and validate the change has been accepted. I'm fairly certain the romantic piece will take care of itself if I want it to, but it needs to happen under the right pretenses and I'm unsure if it's possible to shift there or how to tell if that's the case. I am less concerned with winning her over, and more with doing it the right way, establishing myself in a way contrary to the past. I've already accomplished some subtle things like being less complimentary and getting her to pay, as well as teasing more. Surprise surprise, the effects have been positive. But what are my next steps?