Children of Divorce Speak Out

theseusastro · 2009-01-25T16:39:26+00:00

item 1. We love and need both of you.
item 2. We are not your messengers. If you have something to say to my other parent, tell them yourself.
item 3. We know you are hurting, scared and upset. So are we!
item 4. We know you are probably doing the best you can. So are we!
item 5. Please don't say bad things about our other parent. It makes us feel really bad.
item 6. Please don't ask us to choose sides. That's not fair.
item 7. Don't make us feel we are being disloyal because we enjoy being with our other parent.
item 8. This may not have been your choice, but remember, it is not our choice either.
item 9. Please don't tell us details about the divorce that we don't understand or need to know.
item 10. Please don't make us the "man" or the "lady" of the house. We are just kids. Let us be kids!!!

7 is interesting because this is the instance where both parents have the opportunity to give nonverbal negative signals.

The children come back happy and excited from their visit usually with the noncustodial parent...usually Father and their happiness is met with stonewalling indifference. The custodial parent is still able to claim that they never 'said' anything negative about the noncustodial parent.

edit: tidy up formatting.

Title	Children of Divorce Speak Out
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	4
Comments	1
Date	January 25, 2009 4:33 AM UTC (17 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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7 is interesting because this is the instance where both parents have the opportunity to give nonverbal negative signals.