TLDR; my gf isn't respecting my time atm and I'm not sure if the best way to regain my dominant alpha status is to default to zero effort until she chases me or to gradually reduce the attention I give her while addressing any comfort tests she throws at me.

So I've been spending too much time with my ltr lately and the signs started to show - getting shitty at me for nothing, half assed sex etc. So I decided to back off a bit and do my own thing because my time is valuable and I'm not hanging around to be a door mat for occasional startfish sex in which I'm pressured to finish asap.

So now I'm not there, she's holding out on texting me and then complaining that I'm not texting her. Her texts are half assed, one word reply shit but she obviously wants my attention. I did some push pull, acted as if I didn't even notice the lack of effort in her texts and sent some kisses and shit (a little more effort than she was putting in) but then quickly pulled away 'talk later bub, got some stuff to do xx'. The intention here is to gradually decrease my time and effort spent on her instead of just going cold turkey silent suddenly.

We had a little phone chat today where she winged about how she's not going to chase me all the time and I have to chase her sometimes and I explained that I'm right here, if she wants to talk to me all she has to do is txt and that it's a two way street. I said I was pretty busy atm and not particularly fussed about us not checking in with eachother all day and mandatory 'good night, love you xxx' txts etc. and she said 'then I won't be either' and made some snarky shit test comment that took me by surprise.

So my smv is obviously in question by her presently and she's trying to test me into beta provider submission- That she deserves my attention and gratitude simply for existing without her providing the things I need - (respect and quality intimacy)

-----------------------------My question is this---------------------- I was fairly certain that I was doing this right by sticking to my guns and not texting her first (like she says she wants me to but then doesn't put in any effort and complains I didn't say 'i love you') but then I started to question myself that I might have missed some comfort tests and maybe I need to still reassure her I care about her while gradually withdrawing attention.

Do I just go radio silent and wait her out? (She's a stubborn shit and it could be a week before I hear from her) Or do I continue withdrawing attention slowly and reassure her I do actually care while respecting my own time?

Thanks