How do you deal with the fact that you've wasting a good portion of your life, being a leech to your family.

letriggeredface · 2016-06-05T01:44:56+00:00

We all are parasitic until we can become self sufficient. If you're a parent you will also make sacrifices for your children and people will try to fuck up your shit at times as well. You have to realize that the future is all that matters and by reproducing you have made every one of your mothers sacrifices worth it. The goal of life is to reproduce, win and you will have made it all for her. You can also contribute to her when she needs you later on in life, establish yourself now if only to return the favor when she takes a serious nosedive thanks to old age.

Yeah, you've done some shit that fucked up some chances for you (low gpa) but it doesnt mean you still cant come back from this.

melliescomingover · 2016-06-05T02:44:25+00:00

You are still young yet you're on the verge of giving up. Sounds like you're having an existential crisis. Welcome to your mid-twenties.

Obviously you have a lot of shit on your plate and I do empathize, but the glaring fact here is that you have to buckle down and study harder. That's your one-way ticket out of this situation and the one aspect of your life that you have control over. You are acting as a passive observer. This needs to change. By slacking you are only playing yourself (and your family).

Sometimes when tough shit is happening you need to zone out, tune out all the emotional shit (it's a distraction), and focus all your energy in one productive direction. Your mom's problems are your mom's problems: you feeling bad is a waste of energy - it is not going to make her healthier or improve her relationship with her siblings. We all have our own shit to deal with. Many mothers make the mistake of becoming emotionally reliant on their children (especially their sons), and this is unfair. It sounds like you have an unhealthy co-dependence, possibly furthered by the fact you haven't moved out yet. This can and will change as you gradually become more self sufficient.

You've done 4 years already, it's time to roll up your sleeves and set to work.

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