Posted this in another sub and was recommended to come here. I realize I sound like a SIMP ass bitch but I’m usually good at reading situations and I’m kind of stumped here.

Started talking to this guy pre covid. Took me on cute dates, but things fizzled (on my end, I stopped answering) once the pandemic hit. He continued to reach out and back in august asked me to dinner. It was great, we had a fun time and hung out every weekend after that. He took me on a weekend getaway, always dinners, stuff you expect a guy to do when he likes you.

So after our weekend getaway I went on a trip for two months. Because he didn’t bring up wanting to date or anything I told him I didn’t really see where we stood and felt it was best that we stopped talking while I was away (not sure if it was naive of me to expect because we had only hung out maybe 4 times since we started talking again). Told him we had a great sexual chemistry but not sure that the other aspects were there.

He was confused and said he thought our chemistry in other areas was great but that he respected my decision. He said that he really liked me and wanted to see me when he got back (I took it with a grain of salt and never reached back out). Then while I was away he was blowing me up, telling me he wanted to see me when I got back, that he’s never been this open with someone, what activities he wants to do when I got back, etc.

So okay, I went to see him when I got back. He was so excited, picking me up in the air when he saw me, we had a great time and then I brought up the conversation we had before I left. He said it forced him to do some reflection and that’s when he came out with telling me about his past relationships, where he’s at at this point in his life, and struggling to be open and vulnerable again. He said he does feel open with me (as I type I realize what a crock of shit this could sound like but it sounded genuine at the time). He said he used to be heavier, didn’t get girls and would jump at the first girl that liked him. Now he said he wants to make sure he’s getting into a relationship for the right reasons. He also mentioned having a friend group that doesn’t have gfs and those that do, get wild on nights out. He says he sees that and doesn’t want it to be him.

Now he’s asking me to dinner again and wants to plan another weekend getaway. Opinions on what’s going on here? I guess I’m just struggling bc he’s always the one making the effort. Is it clear as day that this guy is stringing me along?