My ex bf of 1 year and 3 months is trying to come back just like every other guy I’ve ever dated. The problem is: our relationship was highly volatile, ton of personality overlaps and non compatibility. We had really really good times but our bad times were really really bad. During our break up he did EVERYTHING in his power to ruin my life including reaching out to my friends and making false statements that I bad mouthed them, he reached out to my ex-husband and told him he will be a witness in court for him in order to help my ex take my kids from me. Few other horrible things in between. And then he tries to come back again and again and again. He keeps talking how we had such good memories and such a bond. And while we did at times, the dark side was super ugly on both of our parts, i did and said a lot of horrible things to him too, as well as he did to me. My ex husband also tries to come back while last 3 years of our marriage was progressively horrible to both of us, we argued and fought nonstop, like everyday. It was so so bad. It was a breath of fresh air when we separated. This is not just my experience as I observe it with my girlfriends. Ex’s always try to come back, and if not, somehow see if you wanna stay friends and yada yada. I never reached out to my ex’s, maybe when I was a teen but that’s it. A couple of times when I did make up with an ex or even just talked to them they’d always say how they missed us together and how great we had it, all to slide back into the same argument routine a couple of months later and the cycle would continue and then they still didn’t want to let go the relationship. Why is that? My ex bf I broke up with in June, the one who dragged me through the mud, is creating new google numbers and fb accounts after I’ve been ignoring his every attempt. He told me himself how much better he will be off and how horrible our relationship was. And I agree. I don’t understand this behavior as I keep seeing it over and over and over with not just me but overall men. Why do men (all my ex’s are good looking) can’t let go of the past? It’s not for the lack of options, it’s something else