On TRP and even moreso on asktrp, there is a countless number of posts and comments with men describing their specific problems in hope for the community to respond with useful insights, linkbacks to the sidebar and specific ideas they can implement to alleviate their situation.

99% of these posts contain problems that only the OP can solve by deeply understanding what the problem is and applying RP methodology to it. TRP can offer a set of possible tools and avenues of possibilities which match closest to the pattern of the problem in question. The quality of advice given by post responders is a function of the level of their collective TRP understanding, their ability to match the pattern of a clearly specified problem to a given set of TRP tools and most importantly, the level of clarity at which the OP specified the problem (detail, cohesive narrative, points of view).

advice below applies only to those who read the sidebar

When you have read the sidebar, theoretically you have assimilated a large portion of the knowledge in some way. It is probably lingering in your brain, in one form or another but typically with weakly associated connections to your past experiences (the more you live by TRP rules the more these connections strengthen). Now, whilst it might not be immediately apparent to you, this knowledge is available to you at any moment, given the right pattern of information that would trigger these associative connections.

When you write a post in the form of: "my gf broke up with me, I've read the sidebar but I still feel like shit and what should I do?... Blah blah", your brain has a very generic description of the problem. There's very little information here to go from in order for the TRP knowledge to start kicking in and associating.

Good thing is... The more detail you'll have, the more chance some of the patterns in your problem will start to be matched by your newly formed circuits, and boom, suddenly you're getting an epiphany of how TRP applies to your life.

Now... brains, whilst powerful and amazing, don't like unpleasant situations: a.k.a. problems. Also, their attention span is low and working memory limited, (try to remember and recall 7 7-digit numbers - very difficult). The best way to keep them on track is to write things out... In detail! Instead of writing a high level post like the above example, start writing a long detailed (very objective) story. I.e. include points of view of yourself, your ex, people around you.

As you write your long post, you start thinking about why people behaved the way they did, including yourself. I.e. in the moment of writing: "... My ex probably thought I wasn't showing her enough emotion and left me..." your brain might associate this with one of the many sidebar texts where such blue pilled reason for breakup (a lie) was discussed. This in turn will trigger other associations connecting you to things such as: "she left you because you demonstrated beta traits and a new branch became available for her to swing onto".

A cascade of associations can follow this way and suddenly, not only you're starting to understand your problem but also starting to strengthen the connections that you just used to analyse your issue.

By now, you will have a long-ass TRP post that describes your problem, points of view of everyone involved and some basic analysis. Now read it again.

Congratulations, you have now made the biggest progress in solving your problem, you understood it. Now you're armed with a bunch of connections in your brain that link towards TRP concepts applied to your problem. You can start solving it!

Now... What to do with your post? Don't submit it! It's pointless. You have just achieved what the other TRP members would have in their responses and you've done it more accurately, more in touch with your own situation and in the process, educated yourself. Job well done.

Save it somewhere to re-read later or just delete it, it makes no difference.