Imagine that a) your boyfriend or husband, and then b) a man you're very interested in:
saw a video of you having sex with another man.

If you had a way of being certain of his emotional state while he watched this, and you determined that he felt no jealousy nor any kind of hurt, or jilted feeling, then:

  1. what does this make you think his true feelings for you are?
  2. would it hurt to think that your SO or a man you like feels no jealousy over you?
  3. does this impact your estimate of how much interest he has in you?