I hope this post finds well.

Over the last few years I have gone through and experience which I believe is common to many of us growing up. We read more books, listen to videos and people, and invest more in ourselves at a personal and professional level. Thankfully, nowadays, useful information is being shared with men in order for them to improve their lives, specially in a context where the mainstream media and many other institutions seem to want people to be held back.

There are many things we listen to and unconsciously begin to apply to our lives. I think we should make a list, to help us and other fellow men, that we can revisit from time to time to help guide us through life. I will some sentences which I believe correspond to useful advice, and I would be glad if you could chime in! So, here we go:

  1. Seek to understand more about psychology and female psychology. I think it will help with your interactions at school, at work and dealing with people on daily basis;
  2. Don't take things so personally. This is related to the first topic. People have their believes and attitudes, and it's not up to you to change them. You can only change yourself;
  3. Make yourself a priority. This does not mean that you have to be selfish, but don't do things you don't want to do to please people;
  4. You cannot win somebody else's heart by doing things for them, "buying love". They either like you, or not, and it's not something under your control;
  5. Listen to people, and think first, before giving them an answer, if at all. Nowadays people don't tolerate different opinions very much, and it's important that you do not fall into the trap of fighting back. You listen, you process, you reply. If they respect, fine, if not, walk away. Don't waste time with bulshit.
  6. Read books. Gain by reading what others have laboured hard for;
  7. Dress well, and take care of your appearance;
  8. Seek to have some interesting hobbies. It is also an opportunity to meet more people;
  9. Save money and learn to invest;
  10. Develop several skills. Learn how to fix things. It will make you a resourceful person and will save you some monery;
  11. It's not possible to have too many friends. Time is limited, and if you're investing in yourself, there's only so much you can give away, so you better make sure you're investing your time with people who want the best for you, who care for you and help you move forward;
  12. Workout. Do serious exercise routines, with fully body exercises and heavy weight. Train the mind to do things that are hard;
  13. Be humble, for somedays you're are the top, and next day you're at the bottom;
  14. The only permanent thing in this life is change. Pray for wisdom to accept what you cannot change, courage to change what you can.

This is it on my part!

Looking forward for more advice. I hope this can prove useful to our fellow reddit men!