Bf and kids friends mom exchange numbers to have coffee

Crosspost "Bf and kids friends mom exchange numbers to have coffee" from /r/relationship_advice:

I’m not the bio mom to his kids (10 and 14). Their kids all go to school together and are friends. I don’t think I’d care had we not been “on a break” during their exchange and that he asked her to take her to coffee too…. We got back together after the exchange and I’m super uncomfortable about how the convo went. Especially when he had said he hadn’t spoken or even thought about other women during our time apart. He volunteered this info I didn’t ask if he had. I found the IG dms between the two after this claim. And there were in fact conversations about their kids setting up an air soft play date which is fine idc if that were to happen I suppose. I Find it sort of interesting timing to ask for the number and to meet for coffee sometime during our break and never before. He said Coffee was to talk about the kids but you’ll find that it wasn’t. She is a widow and he will be divorced from biomom this month so they have single parenting in common and can see bonding as friends over this. Bf and I are 9 years apart. For claiming to have their kids as the basis of meeting and speaking I don’t appreciate our relationship being aired out in such a way and it makes me think twice about taking him back

Here’s some pieces of their Convo. All of these are from him to her:

“O no well shit! you can't leave me now lol Here's my number if you wanna talk or whatever anytime.... I would like for the boy's to link up and play some airsoft after this rain passes 🙂 I'm sorry but I'm wanting to be blunt with you.... You really seem like a warm loving person and an amazing mother..... I don't know you more than a DM and a wave hello but I think very highly of you and childs name so I just wanted to say thank you for being kind hearted to me and my son

No not at all.... So I had a girlfriend for almost 2 year's and I ended it cause it was getting to be a bit much for me.... I will say I think the age made a difference I'm 36 and she's 26 so idk wasn't right..... But yeah I moved home with grandpa for now on 5th street boy's are pumped so

I'm gonna be very blunt again.... Would you like to get coffee sometime? I'd really love to vent in person I don't talk to anyone and I work and stay home and family... If you'd like idk if you have a boyfriend or husband I'm not trying to step on toes”

I don’t have kids but my gut tells me this is not platonic despite him claiming it i. He had and has been telling me that he doesn’t feel like we ever broke up and that he just needed space during this break. Yet he’s telling this woman he dumped me. He also never texted or called her and they never met up for coffee yet and they never had the play date. Since we got back together the con is stopped between them except for a happy new year from her and a “same to you 😃” reply. Before this exchange they rarely talk only do comment on one another’s political IG stories. Nothing flirty or anything until now.