Crosspost "TIFU by sleeping with a classmate" from /r/tifu:

Obligatory this happened a year and a few months ago. Me (22M) and a (now ex) friend (18F) struck up a mutual FWB relationship in college. We met about once or twice a week for a few weeks after we both just got out of long relationships that ended poorly. We broke it off after a few weeks was over but remained friends and communicated regularly, even to where she came to my side defending me against people accusing me of grooming her even after we stopped meeting up.

A few weeks later she admitted she had feelings for me after not talking to me for a few days and in an intense argument. I told her I wasn't going to be able to date her for a variety of reasons (mainly being I'm much closer to graduating than she was and we aren't in the same stage of life). She cut all communication after that other than insulting me regularly in group chats, referencing our situation, and outright lying to our mutual friends about what happened.

After a few times of her doing this over the coming months, I privately reached out to her to tell her to stop. She continued. After 3 times of this, I reached out again and got no response. Instead, she halted all communication in all of the groups we were in for 2 days.

A few days after I sent my email to her asking her to stop talking about me, I get a notice from the Title IX office at my school. She turned me in and accused me of Sexual Assault and Harassment. I was assigned a lawyer by my school via Title IX procedures to act as my "advisor".

I couldn't explain what was going on to anyone. I felt like I was going insane to the point where I got hospitalized for a few days because there was no end in sight for everything going on. I was left (and was later kicked out of) one group and limited my interaction in the other at my lawyer's advice, atleast until the Title IX trial (which is held by the state with 6 official judges from the local county acting as the jury).

I submitted all evidence I had of her trying to smear my name, including our conversation all those months ago when things went wrong, all insults she sent over to me, and any communication we had since the alleged incidents. The trial happened about 8 months after the situation ended and I was pronounced innocent after she admitted she made the whole thing up in this mock court.

However, I'm still dealing with the reprocutions over a year later. These groups I used to be in are actively targeting me and using me as the butt of jokes. My false accuser is still in these groups and has turned public opinion so far against me that I've been officially banned from these groups. I had to delete my reddit account because I took moderation action against one of their mods and they doxxed me while sending a harassment campaign towards me. It got so bad they were taking pictures of my family and posting it on their forum for laughs. I finally graduated a month or so ago and I can finally begin to move on.

TL;DR: I slept with a classmate in a FWB agreement. We had an argument. A few months later she accused me of Sexual Assault and now my social circle shrank from over 150 to under 6. Nobody believes me when I tell them how serious this got and there's nothing I can do legally since she's got no assets and lawyers won't take a case where there's nothing to compensate me if I do win.

Posted by MinimumArmadillo2394 | 7 March 2022 | Link