I came across this list on a YouTube comment section and saved it onto my documents so that I could read it over and over again because, in my opinion, it is pretty damn accurate. Unfortunately, I forgot which video I had found it under and so I can't give credit to the man who wrote it up but here's their list of red flags to look for in women:

  • Long (fake) nails
  • Fake hair (~long and/or bright colored)
  • Makeup (mostly heavy makeup)
  • Big earrings
  • Provocative clothing
  • Very active on social media (attention seeking content; thirst trap antics, etc.)
  • Questionable.. questions (e.g. "Babe, would you date me if I were a [insert animal here]", "babe do you think I'm pretty"..)
  • Tattoos/body mods/piercings (especially in weird places)
  • Most/all of her friends are male.
  • Promiscuous or Using se>< as a proxy for feeling loved and adored (this can be especially true for people who struggle with attachment issues/daddy issues)
  • S.I.G.N language (Shaming, Insult, Guilting & Need to be right)
  • Herd mentality/No sign of individualism (follows beauty standards, fashion trends, body ideals, bad friends or other trends without questioning or reflecting on their reason[s] for doing so) [often correlates with No. 2, 3 & 5]
  • Spoilt brat-like/elitist behaviour (e.g. people who refer to themselves as "bad b*tches", claim to have "very high standards" or are "high maintenance" ) [often correlates with No. 1, 2, 3, 4 & 5]
  • Materialistic [often correlates with No. 12 & 13]
  • Their actions don't follow their words (cognitive dissonance)
  • No sense of boundaries
  • Uses past events or personal information you gave when you 'opened up' to them, as ammunition against you during fights or quarrels.
  • Clingy, jealous or possessive (e.g. not being allowed to have any female friends)
  • Frequent quarrels over trivial things--it seems some people think toxicity makes relationships more 'fun or exciting' (or even straight up admit they enjoy toxicity in relationships)
  • Habit of lying (shouldn't be ignored [along with No. 7, 14 & 16] as it could escalate over time [often correlates with No. 10, 11, 13 & 15. Possibly with No. 6] )
  • Has a tiny, little girl/baby-like voice (possibly due to trauma or abuse at a young age [Reference: Dr. Drew Pinsky - Loveline] )
  • Expects you to 'mind-read' their thoughts and/or 'hints'--- (Quora; Do women expect men to be mind-readers?)
  • *Their mentality of dependence and expectations is so high they use emotions to smoke screen this shameful behaviour. [Shouldn't be ignored. Could correlate with No. 19]
  • Sh*t Tests---"used to determine your frame. Frame is a concept which essentially means 'composure and self-control.” (shouldn't be ignored; usually continues indefinitely, may escalate over time [Often correlates with No. 11, 16 & 19. Possibly with No. 7 & 17] )
  • Ultimatums (could correlate with No. 13, 16 & 18)
  • Can't/doesn't take 'No' for an answer (Strongly correlates with No. 16, possibly with No. 11 & 18 [Shouldn't be ignored; possible sign of an abusive person, may lead to tantrums, physical assault or other 'crazy' behaviours] )
  • Comes from a broken/toxic/abusive home and/or lacks (proper) parental figure(s). (Often correlates with No. 4, 6, 8, 10, 16, 19, 20 [compulsive or pathological lying] & 21)
  • *The issue is simply not just coming from aforementioned homes, but many don't seek professional help and/or properly work on themselves so they carry that mental/emotional baggage into their relationships.
  • They're often passive aggressive (Could correlate with No. 22. Possibly with No. 7, 11, 19 & 25)
  • Bisexual ("People with loose sexual boundaries like bisexuality, polyamory & pansexuality- sexualities where they can't really declare a major or stick to a specific type tend to be trauma survivors*." [*May correlate with No. 26] )
  • Exhibits 'infantile/neotenic' behaviours when in need of aid (e.g. using a childlike voice* and speech pattern, acting "cute", naive; sometimes with a 'sensual' undertone - often used to avoid accountability, responsibility or get their way) [*Not to be confused with No. 21; this one (29) is intentional while No. 21 is 'involuntary'] [Could correlate with No. 10 & 25. Likely with No. 16] )
  • Frequent mood swings-- could be 'preemptively' identified with certain comments e.g. "Having someone who can handle your mood swings is such a blessing", "Need a man that can handle me (when I'm mad, act crazy..)" [Correlates with No. 19. Possibly with No. 13, 17, 18, 22, 23 & 25]
  • Really into astrology (has their personality, behaviours or actions based on zodiac signs) 32. Being "Free-spirited"; 'Hippie' or 'Gypsy-like'. (Could correlate with No. 8, 10 & 26. Possibly with No. 28)
  • Often/always plays the victim-- "When you're so used to playing the victim you don't realise when you're being the villain." (Often correlates with No. 15, 20 & 29. Possibly with No. 6, 10, 11, 16 & 17)

To end, he wrote,

These flags could be a result of insecurities, emotional and/or mental immaturity, childhood emotional neglect, attention/validation seeking, attachment issues, etc.

I'm interested in what people have to say about these points as they fall in line with the common complaints that men have about women but women (and some men) usually defend against those complaints. Well, now they're in a list of red flags.