A lot of women are lying to men. A lot of men are lying to women.

A lot of mothers and fathers (grandparents) are lying to their children.

Everyone is trying to gaslight/force each other into believing this or that.

And a lot of it is just flat out wrong. IMO. This topic could be extended to society in general, but to focus on gender, men and women are growing more suspicious, maybe mistrusting and slightly resentful of each other. (Yes, even the average, everyday people outside of this sub). And it’s because of the lying! Because people aren’t telling the truth. The truth about what they actually want, what they actually believe. About what actual relationships are like. What it’s like to have children, be married etc.

People are lying to men and women about relationship dynamics, gender norms and what we should expect in terms of relationships and sex. And we’re lying to each other.

While talking to my mother, about possibly having children and how it’s such a big, life altering decision. And how sometimes I feel irrational for thinking about it too much or having “negative” thoughts.

She said I was being irrational, maybe I am. And told that “it isn’t a big deal”, “it’ll work out” “you think too much”

I called her out. Told her that she’s lying to me by telling me I’m over reacting lol.

And she admitted it. She admitted she was lying. That she has to basically trick me or deceive me, so I’ll willingly putting myself into this position. If I was to think “logically”, think hard about it and what it’ll really be like. I would probably never do it. This can extend to a lot of things when it comes to gender and relationships. For both men and women.

I think this is the gen z (and probably millennial) dilemma. We’re thinking too hard about stuff our parents/grandparents didn’t think about at all. We’re thinking so hard about it, a lot of people are “opting out”. And because of this, the only option people have is to lie and disregard legitimate concerns, coming from both men and women.

Tdrl: People are willing to lie to each other’s faces about the realities of life and relationships. Because they can’t be honest