People can probably think of better examples of this but this is what prompted my thoughts for what it is worth

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I don’t want to give any identifying information, but in quick succession fairly recently two similar incidents happened. In one case, a female acquaintance of mine posted a photo on Facebook where her two adult kids had made a birthday cake for a big public birthday party which said something like she was the only father they ever had (I can’t remember the exact words but it suggested they had no love for their father even though for at least one of the kids, he lived with them until she was into her teens; I think the other one was something like 10-12 when the parents  split). 

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In the other, the adult daughter of another female acquaintance of mine put something in writing blaming the father 100% for the break up of her parents’ marriage. This was in connection with introducing her mother’s poetry but wasn’t relevant to the subject matter she had written about and there was no need to bring it up. The mother could have asked the daughter to edit it but sent it on to me and seemed happy her daughter had said it (can’t remember the exact wording now).

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I couldn't but feel sorry for the men in both cases.

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To me, it’s not something to be proud of if your now adult kids don’t have a relationship with their father and similar. I think it’s more praiseworthy if kids of parents who separate have ongoing good relationships with both their parents. I think as a society it should be made clearer that the latter is a better outcome. And also having your kids take your side is not definitive proof the father was 100% to blame for the relationship break-up; not 100% proof he is a bad person; etc.

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[Comment: Reading back on this, it probably would have been stronger if the details were fresh in my head].