My Correspondence Bias obliterated one of the best friendships I ever had. It hurt me deeply when I was finally taught these things, and this is why I write about it and share my experiences.

The "Correspondence Bias" or "Fundamental Attribution Error" refers to our tendency as humans attribute another person's actions (theirs) to their character or personality, while attributing their own behavior (yours) to external situational factors outside of their control, like being late because you got stuck behind a train or your car breaking down. In other words, you tend to cut yourself a break while holding others 100% accountable for their actions.

Often times, Red Pillers will even dish out the punishment towards another person for their bias. I unfortunately lost my decade-long career and livelihood to Red Pillers that were too wrapped up in this bias to see actual truth of the situation they were ruining my life over, but that's all long gone. Now I just try to help people understand these things so that they don't become villains in an innocent person's story due to some coach who doesn't understand biases and/or actively teaches you to destroy others for this bias.

I used to have it a lot myself, but still occasionally slip up if I'm tired, but through my recovery, this bias was a recurring theme in many of my problems with being around people and society in general. I struggled with people A LOT. In dating, this bias can literally be your Kryptonite to finding a worthy partner and yet Red Pill coaches seem to skip right over this incredibly helpful wisdom, and seem to actually promote that type of thinking. Why?

In therapy, I learned that mine was prominent due to my foster guardian's having undealt with mental health issues, like black and white thinking that caused me to not only think, but also observe the world in a particular way...dysfunctional, warped, and just plain wrong. One thing I also learned is that until we learn to be better and healthier-minded, we tend to mimic/mirror our parent's dysfunctions and/or mental illnesses and personality disorders, even if we don't "officially" have them.

This was my situation and several Red Pilled men had a field day with this observation. I've been told, by many Red Pillers that I have nearly every mental and personality disorder available in the DSM, but actual professionals and specialists disagree. Why do you think this is? Could it be that it's because the coaches themselves haven't introspected enough to understand these things about themselves?

What are ways that we can practice seeing and observing the world beyond this bias?