• Set of ideas 1:
    Women don't care about looks as much as men do; in fact, many of them don't even care. If you want to be attractive to a woman you have to be a good person and have pure feelings. It's also very important to be yourself, just be yourself.
  • Set of ideas 2:
    Women care about looks as much as men do; if you want to be attractive to them you will have to go to gym. You need to have money, the more the better. You must show high levels of confidence and leadership. Of course, your social skills need to be well worked on.

Which set would you say most closely matches the education you received?
Throughout my childhood, teen years and most part of my twenties the first set was mainstream for me: I heard many times, in all kinds of contexts and from all kinds of people, that choosing a partner based on looks was a men's thing and women selected their partners according to higher criteria.
In recent years I've noticed certain ideas from the second set have, somehow or other, crept into the mainstream.

I think this is where a large part of the resentment that many unpartnered men show comes from: receiving a certain upbringing and then discovering, much later, that said upbringing doesn't work for certain key developmental and wellness matters.
I've also noticed that many women, and a certain number of men, claim that the ideas of the second set have had a lot of acceptance and have been basic knowledge since always, so they don't understand where all the outrage comes from.
I have to admit I find that stance somewhat obnoxius because, at least for me, all those ideas were never hegemonic, well received or even mentioned and I suspect others would agree with me.